There have been a few high-profile false rape accusations in the news recently, and this is justifiably terrifying to college-age men. If you are a young man in an English-speaking country today, it’s important to be aware of this possible threat and take appropriate measures to protect yourself. As Danger and Play wrote in a post on the topic:
“Although you often read of the dangers women face from “date rape,” in truth, men are just as likely to be falsely accused of rape as women are to be actually raped. Not even the most feminist criminal defense lawyer will deny what I’m about to tell you: Fifty-percent of date rape cases are outright false.”
This post is a practical and no-nonsense guide to avoiding false rape accusations for the modern sexually active young man.
I’m writing specifically for a college age audience in this post, because young guys are the most vulnerable. As you get older, you’ll develop a better instinct for identifying and avoiding high-risk women. You’ll also develop the options and self-control to take a pass on girls covered in red flags. All of this will come with time. But for now, you lack maturity, you are full of testosterone, and you don’t have the wisdom or life experience to always make good decisions. As a result, there is a very real chance that you will do something stupid, earn the rage of a tyrannical and unjust set of laws, and ruin your life – unless you follow these five pieces of advice:
1. Be Attractive
Here’s a funny video with more than a grain of truth to it:
Provided you are not actually raping anyone (an assumption we are making throughout this post) a woman will only accuse you of sexual assault or rape if she regrets sleeping with you.
The reality of modern dating is this: Attractive men can often get away with literally anything. Hence why Ted Bundy had legions of fans (link to video) and Billy Beta got a drink thrown in his face for telling a girl her dress was cute.
Fortunately, being attractive is not beyond the reach of the vast majority of men. Work out, eat right, dress well, and most importantly – learn Game. Male attractiveness is largely behavioural, and false accusations are generally made against men who behave unattractively. Consider this study on the most common personality profile of victims of false domestic violence charges:
“They tend to be your average nice guy who has a more nurturing and passive personality. These men are unlikely to be socially aggressive or competitive and tend to lack insight into their personal relationships, which may explain why so many of these men are thrown for a loop when their ex throws them under the bus — even when she’s made threats throughout their marriage to call 911 and have him arrested (Wakefield & Underwager, 1990).”
(Domestic violence is not rape, but I believe the same principles apply.)
Learning and practicing Game will turn you into the sort of man who women wake up excited to brag to their friends about having slept with. As messed up as that is, this is your best line of defense against a false rape accusation.
2. Don’t Date Feminists
Stay far, far away from any girl who enthusiastically identifies as a feminist.
There are many reasons why men with options don’t date feminists. Feminist women are much more likely to hold negative attitudes towards men, have mental health issues, and have serious issues with their sexuality.
Decent girls do not make false rape accusations. Sick, damaged, unloved dregs of society – i.e the sort that gravitate towards the feminist social justice warrior mentality – make false rape accusations.
3) Don’t Be A Jerk
Having sex with a somewhat drunk girl; pressuring a girl into sex; cutting off contact with a girl after promising her that you’ll love her to the end of time – none of these are the moral equivalent of actual rape. In a sane world, we would consider such behaviour rude and inconsiderate, but nothing more.
In the world we live in however, we are approaching a legal environment in which all acts that hurt a girl’s feelings are legally considered rape. Hurt feelings can generally be alleviated by practicing rule #1, but it’s also prudent to avoid being a dick unnecessarily.
When I was young, I used to be an asshole to girls for no reason at all. It was fun to push buttons, test social boundaries, and see what I could get away with. Today, at the ripe old age of twenty-eight, I am a much nicer guy. I let girls down easy. I make them feel good about sex with me, and whatever length of relationship we have. I stand in stark contrast to my early-twenties self.
Part of this change is a genuine desire to be a better person to the people who enter my life, but it’s also practical. It’s bad karma to live in a city or campus filled with jilted girls who hate your guts. Bad karma is never a good thing, but it’s especially risky in an age when there is no clear legal distinction between regret and rape.
4) Record Yourself
Is it weird to capture video and/or audio of the girls you sleep with? Is it ‘paranoid?’ Maybe. But there are very few ‘paranoid’ men in jail for rapes they didn’t commit. Buy a webcam or use your phone’s audio recorder. For many famous athletes, musicians and actors, this is standard operating procedure to protect themselves. From Danger and Play:
“Four Hofstra college students were accused of gang-raping a fellow student. They were thrown into jail, and held without bail. Had they gone to trial, they’d have been convicted.
Yet the men were released from prison, after one of the defendant’s lawyers produced a cell phone video of the encounter, proving it was consensual.
Even lawyers need to beware of false rape accusations. A San Francisco lawyer was charged with raping three women, and held effectively without bond. Luckily he had videotaped sexual encounters with two of the women, and most charges were dismissed against him.
Unfortunately, he did not videotape his sexual encounter with the third accuser, and thus still faces trial.
Some will ask about the legality of secretly recording sexual encounters. Cap We Tape provides an excellent overview of the legal landscape. One must highlight that lawyer in California illegally recorded his sexual encounters. Breaking the law saved his life.”
In the event that you haven’t recorded a hook up, and a girl seems to be heading down the path of making a false accusation, consider the option of bluffing and telling her that you did record the sex. Of course, be sure to check with a lawyer to make sure you don’t break any laws in your jurisdiction.
5) Develop Post-Bang Game
Most girls are in an emotional state after they bang a new guy. A man with solid game can manage and lead that emotional state, to ensure that the girl feels good about the sex that took place. You must be kind and considerate, but also strong.
Do not kick her out, leave her place, ignore her, leave the room, act cold, or make her feel like a slut and that you have lost respect for her.
At the same time, do not melt into a quivering puddle of lovey-dovey weakness. Be the same man you were when you seduced her, but with just a bit softer of an exterior. Be strong, be kind, and maintain a frame of “That was fun and no big deal. Sex is fun and it happens all the time.” Keep giving her positive emotions; make her feel safe, happy and validated.
Roosh nails it in his analysis of the emotional mind state that women who make false rape accusations are in:
“American girls primarily pick their sexual partners based on feelings instead of logic. She fucks you not because you’re a good man who matches her reasoned compatibility criteria, but because you made her pussy wet with a cocky attitude and aloof nature. The problem with selecting sex partners based on feelings is that if she happens to get a bad feeling about you right after sex, she’s going to back-rationalize and find a way to blame you for it.
Live by feelings, die by feelings. When women let sex be determined by little feelings inside their tummies, they will inevitably pick partners that will make them feel regret afterwards. Unfortunately for men, the repercussions from her feelings can have real-world consequences. Be firm in the face of those negative feelings to survive the whimsy of her hamster brain. These days not only do you need game in fucking American women, but you also need to be a psychologist to deal with the unpredictable aftermath.”
6. Confirm with a “Good Feelings Text”
It’s five AM. She’s left your place, full of good emotions. But what if that changes by noon tomorrow? What if she has a talk with her roommate or boyfriend and suddenly feels guilty? She thinks: I am obviously not a slut or a cheater, so if I slept with a guy I just met, there must be someone else at fault, right? I mean, I had a few drinks. And when we first started fooling around, I pushed his hand away the first time he tried to take off my bra, right? Maybe I should head down to the campus women’s support centre and see what they think…
And this is why you should send a text immediately after she leaves your place:
“Had a blast tonight. txt me when you get home safe.”
Or something like that.
Some might ask: Was that beta? Maybe it was. But, better beta for a day than an inmate for life.
The prevalence of false rape accusations, and the complete invisibility of this issue to most media sources is why more and more men are abandoning the mainstream media and spending time reading sites like Thumotic. Educate your friends by sharing this link, and check out the resources below to learn more about false rape accusations and how you can protect yourself from them.
I’m not the first author to take on this subject:
Danger and Play: How To Avoid A False Rape Case
The False Rape Society: How To Avoid A False Rape Charge
Return Of Kings: Game Can Protect You From False Rape Accusations
Laid NYC: Avoiding False Rape Accusations
Kid Strangelove: The I Didn’t Rape You Text