I’ve met a lot of guys who found the seduction community, and 6 months in were just as visually unattractive as when they started.
But it’s alright, because they’d “annihilated their approach anxiety”.
An excellent comment from The Gentleman Slut on the importance of grooming/style/fitness:
“If every guy who wants more or hotter women did the following:
1. Gym. 6 months. No exceptions.
2. Whiten teeth
3. Put time, effort and money into learning and developing some damn style
4. Get a decent haircut
Then 98% of those men wouldn’t even need to go further than that. They’d have hit or exceeded their desired success with women. Guaranteed.
I remember talking to a Captain in the army when I was younger , and he said something that really stuck with me; “you know what this generation don’t care about? Personal Admin. Having your clothes washed, your face shaved, your nails clipped. People used to care about their presentation and their personal affairs. Not anymore”
I can tell you from personal experience, male pensioners as a group care more about their early morning shave than just about any other part of their day.
A bit off tangent, but I honestly think these things come under the remit of a mans masculinity. The best definition of ‘being a man’ I heard basically linked it to responsibility. As you become a man, you slowly accumulate more and more responibility – at work, at home, in the community, over yourself, etc.
If you can’t properly groom yourself, or keep yourself in shape, it hints at a man off-kilter. And if you are trying to improve your success with women and can’t be bothered to improve your visual aesthetic, you are wasting your time. Completely and utterly.”
I’ve also noticed the point about how well-groomed old men tend to be. My Grandfather and his buddies always look sharp. Can you imagine how long it must take to shave, with all those jowls?