Alcohol is Hurting You

I lost my mother to alcohol, and it still wasn’t enough.

She didn’t even die. She just reached a point where drinking became her only priority in life. But no matter how bad it hurt to watch alcohol destroy my family, it wasn’t enough to ever make me question my own drinking habits.

Is alcohol hurting you? It was hurting me. Drinking to excess is one of the Five Mistakes I Made In My Early Twenties. If you’re a man in the process of questioning your longest-held beliefs – i.e., taking the Red Pill – this post will help you make better choices than I did.

Alcohol Is Destroying Your Body And Mind

If you care about Getting Lean And Muscular, alcohol will hold you back from the best physique and performance that you’re capable of.

Heavy drinking will also shrink your brain, weaken your heart, and eventually lead to chronic fatigue and dementia. Think back to the last time you got drunk. How did you feel the next day? How do you feel after a long weekend of binge drinking? A hangover is your body’s way of telling you to stop abusing it.

Sometimes I wonder how sharp my mind would be today if I hadn’t spent all those years in a drunken stupor. Did I sacrifice my greatest gifts in life for the sake of keg parties and dollar-shot nights? If so, can I ever get back what I lost? Who knows.

A young body is capable of withstanding incredible abuse. I used to pride myself on being able to go out drinking all night, then wake up and kick a girl out at eight o’clock in the morning so I could go grind through problem sets in the library.

But what could I have done if I had set a higher goal than being able to wake up and function? What if I had made it my goal to Optimize My Cognitive Performance from a young age? What great things might I have done in my early twenties, if I hadn’t drank away half my time and energy? I’ll never know.

Will you?

Alcoholism Is Real

It’s easy to forget that alcohol can destroy your life.

When you’re in your early twenties, everyone is drinking, everyone feels in control, and everyone feels confident that they’re on a path to success. Then you become an adult, the years roll by, and men start to fade. Everyone has a great stride at the start of a marathon.

Let me tell you about a friend named Ryan.

Ryan had as much potential as anyone I’ve met. After college, he landed a great job, and moved in with his girlfriend.

Then everything went to shit. The girl left. The career imploded. Ryan was no longer the cool, fun, carefree, successful guy who liked to get loose and have a few drinks. He became the aggressive, irresponsible alcoholic who took stupid chances and got kicked out of bars and parties. His drinking increased, becoming sad and medicative.

Everyone loves a happy alcoholic. It’s easy to ignore an addiction when everything is going right. But allowing yourself to become dependent on alcohol introduces fragility to your life. If everything you have starts to fall apart tomorrow, will you have the strength to rebuild from scratch? Or will you seek an escape in the drug that you’ve learned to associate with the better times? You have no idea until you try.

Life comes in peaks and valleys. When you’re brought low, will you give up? Or keep moving? The more dependent you are on alcohol and other easy escapes, the more likely it is that you’ll quit.

The Blue Pill Comes In A Bottle

If you’re reading Thumotic, you’ve realized that our society has declared war on traditional masculinity. The Cultural Marxists in power want to reduce men to soft, weak, compliant, effeminate shadows of themselves.

Binge-drinking culture is one of their tools. They know alcohol will make you stupid; they know alcohol will decrease your testosterone; they know alcohol allows you to thoughtlessly piss away your free time; they know alcohol holds you back from learning, growing, and building something.

Nothing is more threatening to the ruling elite than groups of strong, smart, resourceful men, working together to challenge their power. But we can’t do very much when we’re all sleeping off hangovers.

Worst of all, binge-drinking culture is most strongly ingrained in groups of young men with the greatest potential to lead, such as fraternities and college sports teams. Fraternities could be the most Red Pill institution in America today, if they weren’t in thrall to the red solo cup.

Ask yourself: Who writes and produces the Hollywood films that glorify college drinking culture? Certainly not men who want you to become strong. Who’s interests are served when you make idols of Bluto, Van Wilder, and Frank The Tank? Certainly not your own.

You’ve taken the Red Pill. That means you’ve learned how to doubt what you’ve been taught, such as the idea that you must base your entire social life on an unhealthy, mind-numbing, oestrogenizing drug. Alcohol (and beer especially) reduces your testosterone. It literally makes you less of a man. And yet, we have been taught to associate beer with masculinity:

  • Men socializing? Drink beer.
  • Men playing masculine sports (rugby, hockey, lacrosse) at the collegiate level? Drink obscene amounts of beer.
  • Upper-class men who are future leaders of the country forming brotherhoods in elite universities? Base your entire life on planning to drink beer; procuring beer; drinking more beer than anyone else; and forming an entire subculture based on drinking heavily.

How much of this is coincidence? It’s interesting to note that drugs which make you more confident, contemplative, open to experience, intelligent, and masculine – i.e., Cocaine, Hallucinogenics, MDMA, Modafinil, and Testosterone – are actively repressed, while drugs that make you soft and weak (alcohol and marijuana) are accepted and glorified.

Even if you don’t believe in society’s war on men (i.e, you aren’t paying much attention), The Red Pill is about self-mastery, self-improvement, masculinity, and control over your destiny. Binge drinking is antithetical to each of these goals. It is completely ridiculous to call yourself “Red Pill” and still get drunk regularly.

Being An Alcoholic Is A Choice

You’ve got excuses. I know I did.

I wish I could tell you that it will be easy, and that all your true friends will stand by you no matter what. But I’m not going to lie to you. It won’t be that easy. Turning your back on alcoholism is a choice, and choices come with consequences.

Let me tell you about Steve.

In my first year of undergrad, my friend Steve realized that alcohol was hurting him.

Steve decided that he was going to start drinking less. We were supportive of his decision and we did our best to accommodate ourselves to Steve’s new lifestyle choice. It turned out to be a great opportunity for the rest of us to take a hard look at our own drinking habits, and develop some new common interests that didn’t revolve around alcohol.

(Yeah, right.)

What actually happened: Steve’s entire circle of friends ruthlessly mocked him for not getting blackout drunk. We still considered him a good friend. But, all we ever did was drink, and make fun of Steve for not drinking. Over time, he drifted away.

I’m telling you this story so you know what you’re getting into.

If your crew drinks every night, and you choose to go against the grain, you will lose friends. Maybe not all of them, and maybe not forever. But you will challenge their worldviews, and there will be consequences.

Part of the reason is the crabs-in-a-bucket phenomenon. Your friends will be threatened by your attempts to improve yourself. It would be a like a fat guy in a group of fat guys who started lifting weights.

It’s also a matter of lifestyle. If all your friends are rock-climbers, and you all go rock-climbing together five days a week, and you hang out and talk about how awesome rock-climbing is, and how crazy last night’s rock-climbing session was, and how excited you are about the big rock-climbing event coming up this weekend, and then one day you decide you aren’t interested in rock-climbing – your friends won’t even need to reject you. You’ll just get bored of them, and they’ll get bored of you.

It will hurt. Accept it.

In the end, Steve lost some friends. But he also didn’t fail any more classes, or spend any more nights in jail. We’re still in touch, and Steve is doing great. I know that the first year or two was hard for him, but he’s a better man for it, and I’m a worse man for not having the courage to follow his lead.

What Are You Going To Do?

There will be resistance:

  • As I’ve cut back on my drinking over the past two years, some of my closest friends have pushed back and acted personally offended that I want to drink less.
  • It is much harder to sleep with girls on a first date when alcohol isn’t involved.
  • Sharing a pint with a prospective client is much more likely to lead to business than coffee.
  • My life is full of small pleasures that are enhanced by alcohol: Catching up with old friends; sharing a beer with my father on the deck; weddings and bachelor parties; weekends at the cottage.

I don’t say no every time. But every year, I say ‘no’ a little more often. I haven’t given up alcohol completely, but I do stick to a six-drink maximum on any single day.

Am I ever afraid of missing out? Not at all. I’ve been drunk a thousand times or more in my life. I get it. I know what it’s like. I also know that there are million other things to do and experience, and I have nothing to gain from re-hashing the same self-destructive debauchery every weekend.

If you’re a college-aged man, I’m jealous of the opportunity you have to make a choice, right now, to avoid the same mistakes that I made.

You will have to be a leader

You will have to accept that you will lose friends, and that your life will be full of small conflicts between yourself and the social norms around you. You will have to be prepared for the sideways glances, the pointed questions, the naked mockery that come when you order a soft drink, or serve your friends fresh juice instead of beer.

The younger you are, the easier it is to get caught up in what other people think of you. Trust me: The loss of a few temporary friends is not more important than your health, your time, your intellect, and your self-respect. If you find yourself with some extra free time, Start Lifting Weights, Use The Red Pill To Improve Your Life, and read some Great Books For Men.

The majority of college-aged men will spend the most important four year of their lives drunk or hungover half the time. But Thumotic is a community for exceptional men, who want to do exceptional things with their lives.

So tell me: What are your current drinking habits? Is alcohol hurting you? If so, what are you going to do about it? Tell us in the comments below.

A Boy Is Born

A boy is born.

The first person he meets takes a sharp knife, and hacks off part of his penis. This is the only favour that American society will ever do for the boy: Introduce him to the world with a brutal declaration of its hostile intent.

Third grade

The boy wants to run, play, and wrestle. He wants to compete with other boys, explore, take risks, and get hurt. He wants to test the limits of his young body. He wants to be a boy, but this will not be allowed.

The boy spends the majority of his time in a stale classroom that has been designed by feminist educrats to cater to the needs of young girls. Competition, exploration, and accountability are discouraged. Obedience, order, and effort are elevated as the highest virtues.

The boy is prescribed heavy amphetamines that make him sit still and focus on his busywork. He takes drugs that I, a twenty-nine-year-old man with an interest in biohacking and nootropics, am too cautious to use regularly.

The boy identifies one or more passions which utterly captivate him: books, computers, engines, tools, math, the science of living things – the list goes on. He is permitted a small amount of time to explore these passions, but his new obsessions come second to the finger-painting and scrap-booking activities of his core curriculum.

Eighth grade

The boy discovers girls. He spends the next thirty years obsessed with them. He wants female attention, sex, and love, more than he has ever wanted anything in his life.

When the boy asks his parents and other authority figures how to attract women, he is told to “just be yourself.”  When he points out that all the girls chase after assholes, he is told, “Don’t worry, girls are only like that when they’re young. Nice guys like you will get the girl in the end.”

The boy is inwardly repulsed at the idea of being the ‘nice guy’ and settling down with a thirty-year old woman who has spent her twenties hooking up with the ‘sexy guys’ – but the boy senses that such an idea is so politically incorrect, that expressing it would earn him the hatred of everyone he loves.

The boy is confused. He knows, in a factual sense, that he is a male of the human species. But he has no idea what it means to be a man. His father is either absent or neutered. His pop culture role models are Homer Simpson the doofus; Ray Romano the doormat; Ted Mosby the bitter nice guy.

His teachers begin to school the boy in his culpability, as a white male, for all the world’s problems.

The boy knows he feels attracted to women, but he subconsciously recognizes that heterosexuality is considered boring, uncool, and vaguely immoral, while homosexuality is an easy path to social recognition, encouragement, and a coherent group identity.

The boy decides that life is confusing and ambiguous, and makes his peace with it. He presses on.

Freshman year of college

The boy goes to college, because he is told that’s how you get a good job. He is excited by the opportunity to meet girls who are more intelligent and less shallow than the ones in his high school. The boy takes out a student loan that will eventually grow to six figures.

The boy studies hard, lifts weights, and – acting on the advice he receives from his mother, when he complains to her that he still doesn’t have a girlfriend – he joins a club and an intramural sports team.

The boy is surprised to find that college is a lot like high school. The new cool guys resemble the old ones, and he is not one of them. His coursework is even easier, less practical, and more infused with political correct pablum than it was in high school. Girls continue to ignore him, except for those he helps with their schoolwork.

One girl becomes his ‘best friend.’ She complains to the boy often about the jerks she can’t seem to stop dating.

The boy assumes the girl will be overjoyed when he tells her he is infatuated with her. The boy knows that most girls go after assholes, but this girl is different. She doesn’t want to be with her boyfriend who treats her poorly, she – in her own words – wants to find a nice guy.

The boy makes a grand romantic gesture. He cries for the first time in his adult life.

Senior year

The boy decides that he has had enough. He is nice; he is doing well in school; he is healthy and reasonably good-looking. He doesn’t understand why girls still won’t pay attention to him, but he’s ready to do something about it. He opens his laptop and searches “how to attract women”, “how to meet girls in a bar”, and “why do girls like jerks?”

The boy finds blogs like Thumotic, Heartiste, Roosh, Bold and Determined, Danger and Play, and Krauser. He is horrified. These people are awful, according to everything that he has ever been taught.

But, many of the things that these awful people are writing… they sound accurate. All the men whom he has watched succeed with girls, they seem to be following these blogs’ advice, consciously or not. The boy starts reading.

Several weeks later, the boy tells his friends about his new hobby.

The reaction is volcanic:

“You have got to be kidding me!”

“That is soooo fucked up!”

“Wow. Just Wow.”

“What… the actual… fuck?!?!”

“You can’t actually be reading that shit? They are literally rapists!”

A little voice inside the boy wants to fight back. He wants to shout, “They’re not so bad! They teach men how to Get Healthy, Make Money, Read Great Books, and yeah, they give advice on How To Attract Women that actually works! Why is that so awful?”

But the boy knows: If he doesn’t acquiesce, he will lose everyone that he cares about. He will become a pariah, which is an even worse fate than a sexless ‘beta male’. The boy feels guilty for even using the word ‘beta’ in his thoughts. He apologizes to his friends and makes nice noises about not knowing ‘just how bad those pick-up artists really were.’

The boy graduates

The boy is lucky to get a soul-crushing job that will allow him to pay off 10% of his student loan per year. He goes into even more debt to get a condo and a decent car, because he has been taught that grown women will never sleep with a guy who lives in a shared house and takes the subway to work.

The boy tries online dating and get zero replies to his first 200 messages.

The boy signs up for Tinder and spends a week swiping right on almost everybody, with zero matches.

The boy meets one or two single girls per year through his small social circle, but they always seem to wind up dating assholes they meet in bars.

Something inside the boy snaps

The boy spends his 30th birthday by himself, finishing a bottle of whiskey, staring at a loaded gun, and trying to build up the courage to kill himself. He fails, and hates himself all the more for it.

The boy used to watch romantic comedies and fantasize about finding a cute, quirky girl who would love him and want to build a life together. The boy used to fight back tears, thinking about the girls who rejected him. The boy used to fall asleep clutching one of his pillows, imagining that it was the girlfriend who never seemed to materialize.

But that was the boy, and now we have the man: A cruel, twisted version of what he once was.

The man hates the women who rejected him, and the men who succeeded where he failed. He posts on anti-Red Pill forums such as, complaining about “jerks” and “players” and “sluts.”

One day, the man tries to sign into the PUA Hate forum and finds that it has been taken offline. The man learns that Elliot Rodger, a bitter virgin who hated pick-up artists and posted frequently on puahate, killed four men and two women in a murderous rampage.

The man understands Rodger, and empathizes with his rage. Like Rodger, the man hates the society that let him down. He cares for nothing and no one. The man keeps his seat on the bus, while elderly women and crippled war veterans stand. Some combination of laziness, cowardice and apathy keep the man from taking the same path Elliot Rodger did. But the man understands why he did what he did. He feels none of the obligation and responsibility that a healthy civilization requires.

Lacking the courage to put a bullet in his brain and be done with it, the man will commit a slower suicide: A lifetime spent eking out ever-diminishing morsels of base pleasure from masturbation, video games, and junk food.

The End

The man dies, forgotten and alone. The boy wanted to be a piece of kindling: igniting from the embers of his predecessors; burning as part of something bigger than itself; and surviving long enough to give light to those coming after him. Instead, the man was a solitary match that caught, burned, and disappeared, all to no effect and little notice.

The boy could have been saved. The tools were there. A few books and a few months of practice were all that stood between him and an active dating life. The boy would have used those tools, if it weren’t for the people who convinced him that wanting to be happy and successful is the worst thing that a man can do.

What is The Red Pill?

The Red Pill is an attempt to rescue the boy.

The Red Pill is a temporary replacement for the missing fathers, role models, and masculine cultural icons – everything the boy needed to become a completely different man.

The Red Pill is an antidote to the anti-male propaganda taught in schools and colleges.

The Red Pill is a movement created by young men to rediscover our natural masculinity, and reconnect with the great minds of our ancestors, from whom we’ve been cut off by a shallow and presentist culture and education system.

At its core, The Red Pill is an attempt to save the broken men of the western world. We are the only community that actually wants men to be successful with women, and in life. We are the only community that puts men’s welfare ahead of political correctness. We are the only community that offers an alternative to spending your life as a slave.

And that is why we are hated.

Caricatures of Masculinity

Men are rejecting the emasculating nature of post-modern western culture. That’s a good thing.

But in our zeal to reject the effeminate zeitgeist, we have created subcultures which elevate traditional manly virtues to the point of excess and self-parody. We have turned ourselves into caricatures of masculinity.

This reaction is understandable, maybe even desirable. In a world gone mad, there is a lot to be said for enthusiastic and reflexive iconoclasm. When you live among creatures who believe that physical beauty is a disease, the cleansing thereof we should celebrate, it is rational to define yourself as the exact opposite of what they say and do. The Red Pill community has rejected the anti-health, anti-strength, and anti-muscle activists completely. The result is our first caricature of masculinity…

The Bodybuilder

In a world of #FatAcceptance and vegan hipster men in size 26 waist skinny jeans, the Gym Rat stands opposed. The official arbiters of culture and taste – whom we can observe to be some combination of evil and insane – are advocating complete and unconditional surrender to sloth and gluttony. In response, the Gym Rat has adopted the inverse of these values. He defines his masculinity and self-worth based on his strength and physique. But too often, he uses the gym as an excuse to avoid further improvements to himself and his lifestyle. You don’t want to be like an (ex) friend of mine who works a crap job and lives with his obese girlfriend, but has an amazing physique that he bases his self-worth on.

Lifting weights is a great habit and one that you should get started on immediately. Getting in great shape will cost you one or two hours per day, and you will probably get those hours back in the form of more energy and focus in your non-gym hours. But once you have built a healthy routine that includes regular weight training and healthy eating, it’s time to add new challenges to your life.

The Pick-Up Artist

The seduction community is another outlet for the misdirected energies of modern men, and the pick-up devotee is another popular caricature of masculinity.

Men who discover and quickly demonstrate some proficiency in the game want to go out every night, test the limits of what is socially possible, and generally revel in the raw power of perceiving and manipulating social dynamics. The result is a critical mass of young men going out with their friends wings to spam approach, turning walkable downtown neighbourhoods into Day Game Carnivals, putting on a dehumanizing, artificial, and – once the calibration clicks into place – ruthlessly effective pantomime of genuine social interaction.

There is great value in the seduction community, and even more in the practical application of its teachings. But the space monkey, crash-and-burn, approach-machine phase that most new converts embrace is not a stable end point. “Pick-up artist” is not an identity, it is a temporary crash course.

The Digital Entrepreneur

In the late aughts, there arose a new class of location-independent online marketers and entrepreneurs, who have now created a viable and lucrative marketplace in which they sell ebooks to each other and their gullible audiences of despairing office workers.

Their goal is the creation of something called “location-independent passive income”, also known as money from thin air. The core belief of this cult is the idea that opportunities for easy money are widespread, and accessible to the masses. Anyone who denies this, well, they’re simply not doing it right.

The reality is that very, very few entrepreneurs actually rely on passive income “lifestyle businesses.” The vast majority of entrepreneurs work long hours, struggle for years before (maybe) having some success. They experience far more stress than any nine-to-five office worker. For a lot of men – myself included – it’s worth it. But it’s certainly not an easy path, and there is nothing wrong with working a nine-to-five if that suits your risk profile and temperament.

The Solution

The best defense against this mistake – the psychological over-investment in vanity, lust, and greed – is a regular effort to create and experience the sublime: Spend time with people you love; read great books; get a dog; do something artistic and share it with the world. Improve yourself and pursue your goals, but do it with a light heart – not the sullen, joyless, grim-faced resolve of of a self-improvement cyborg.

The purpose of this post is not to dissuade you from weight training, approaching women, or entrepreneurship. On the contrary, these are the most essential tools that young men can use to live a purposeful life: I have been lifting weights since I was in high school, and I consider it one of the six habits that have made me a man; I have been studying and practicing game for years; I’ve written the truth about making money online, and I traded the cushiest of cushy office jobs, for the chaotic and uncertain life of a full-time entrepreneur. The bodybuilding, pick-up, and entrepreneur subcultures are valuable and positive attempts at carving out specific facets of masculine identity.

But precisely because these tools are so obviously and virtuously masculine, we are liable to make idols of them, and forget that there are higher levels of awareness to work towards. When we take our reverence of virtues too far, we turn them into cults, and we create caricatures of masculinity.

How To Write A Resume That Will Actually Get You A Job (And A Life)

Building a great resume is a difficult process. If you don’t make the correct layout, content, and design decisions, your resume won’t be looked at twice. Fortunately, this post will teach you everything you need to know about building a great resume.

First: Select a good stock of paper. Nothing turns off a hiring manager like regular computer paper! This is called attention to detail, and it really pays off.

The second step is to take a big, messy crap on that paper, smear it around, and then give it a shake to get rid of excess chunks. Congratulations! You now have a resume that will give you the best chance of scoring call-backs, interviews, and a lucrative and fulfilling career.

Resumes Are For Losers

You might ask: How will this resume help me get a job?

The answer is that you will never, ever be tempted to give your shit-smeared resume to anyone. You will know that relying on this resume would be catastrophic for your job prospects, so you will be forced to rely on other job search strategies.

In the modern job market, the hard reality is this: Only losers make resumes. Any decent job that is publicly advertised, unless it requires highly specialized skills, will receive hundreds or thousands of applicants. I’m sorry to be the one to break this to you, but your bachelor’s degree from a mid-tier school does not qualify as a ‘highly specialized skill.’

Networking Is For Winners

Your resume won’t help you get a good job, but your network will. Every single worthwhile career opportunity that I’ve ever encountered in my life has come through a friend.

Of course, plenty of good jobs are still attainable through the proper channels. If you’re finishing a Stanford engineering degree with a 4.0 and you want to work for Google, it’s probably not a bad idea to go through the standard recruitment procedure – resume and all.

But if you’re not on an elite track with a degree from a top school, you are better off ditching the traditional application channels, and focusing on finding work through your network.

How To Network Make Friends

The ridiculous use of the word ‘network’ as a verb has created a generation of job-seekers who see their personal and professional networks as separate entities.

This belief is false and unproductive. Your professional network and your circle of friends are the same people. A professional connection who is not your friend will not want to help you professionally. A friend who would not help you professionally is not a good friend.

Most jobs worth having are advertised and filled through personal networks. Very few people will ever find a good job by going to special networking events and making it rain business cards, i.e. “networking”. However, many people find good jobs because their friends help them out and make the right introductions.

Don’t ask: How do I get good at networking? It’s a bad question. Instead, ask: How can I improve my ability to earn good friends?

The (extremely short) answer is that you must become the sort of person you want to attract into your life. So ask yourself:

  • Are you a good friend?
  • Do you like to help people?
  • If a close friend came to you and needed a really big favour, would you help them? Or make excuses?

Stop for a minute and remember your answers.

I will guarantee that 100% of you answered ‘yes’ to those three trick questions. Every man wants to see himself as a good person. Now, here are some real questions:

  • When is the last time you did an unsolicited favour for a friend?
  • When is the last time that you made a point of introducing two friends who would benefit from meeting each other?
  • When is the last time you offered unsolicited help to a stranger or someone you just met, for no other reason than that you saw an opportunity that would be be useful to them?

If you took more than a few seconds to come up with examples to the second set of questions, you are probably a leech. Don’t be surprised that you attract other leeches into your life.

Making high-quality friends is simple, if not easy: Put yourself in situations where you’re likely to meet new people, and focus on helping them and making their lives better right from the start of the relationship. If they don’t reciprocate, stop investing in them.

This is the mindset that successful people operate with. It’s easy to see how this leads to a Nash equilibrium in which value-givers form relationships and help each other conquer the world, while value-takers form toxic relationships with each other and fight over tiny shares of a smaller pie.

What Can You Offer?

When you consider this mindset, it’s easy to see why the typical job seeker is unsuccessful: He is trying to ‘network’ with people who have the power to help him get a job. But the young job-seeker has nothing to offer in return, so he is coming off as a value-taker and turning people off. He will feel like crap throughout the entire process, especially if he naturally has a generous and value-giving mentality in other areas of his life.

This is why networking and job-hunting sucks for most people. It feels slimy, creepy, humiliating, and debasing, because you are going in with a value-taking mindset.

The solution is to start looking for work with a value-giving mindset. Maybe that sounds crazy to you. You’re twenty-three with no work experience and a degree in basket-weaving from Podunk State. What could you possibly have to offer?

The answer – according to the skills and experience you’ve listed on your resume – is “not much”.

But you are not your resume. You have more to offer new friends and professional connections than your intermediate proficiency in Excel and PowerPoint. When you reach out to someone who has the ability to help you get a job, chances are that there is not much you can do to help their career immediately. But a connection to a job opportunity is not the only value worth sharing.

If you radiate high status, you add value to those around you by association. If you’re fit, well-groomed, well-dressed, and carry yourself like a winner, people will feel good around you and want to associate with you. Everyone wants to get coffee with a winner. Most of this effect is subconscious and irrational, but it is still powerful.

Positive emotions are valuable. Good jobs and money are as common as dirt. A nice chat with someone who makes you feel good about yourself, is genuinely interested in you as a person, and really understands you – that’s rare. Many of the high-level ‘networking connections’ who seem so intimidating, are lucky to have one in a year.

Information is valuable. As a reader of Thumotic, you are privy to a wealth of information that is inaccessible to the majority of modern men. You can help your friends and colleagues improve their health by eating like a caveman, taking the right supplements, juicing, and lifting heavy weights. You can help your friends learn game, improve their focus and productivity, and start saving money.

Of course you’re not going to start quoting Day Bang while having lunch with a forty-year old partner at your target firm. But you know the habits that make you a man, and you can gradually share them with the people around you.

(True story: I once helped a senior manager cure his gout by talking to him about this article, and he took an interest in me and had my back from that day onward.)

Women are another valuable resource that you can offer. Pretty young women are the currency that makes the world turn. If you bring cute girls with you wherever you go, no door will ever be closed to you. If you can introduce friends to cute girls in bars, get your own girls to bring their single friends outs, and generally be a matchmaker to the acquaintances in your circle, men will trip over themselves to help you.

Last of all, you can re-frame your current relationships as a reciprocal exchange of value over time.

You’re young, inexperienced, and unconnected – today. But you are a smart, hardworking, and upwardly mobile young man. Your mentality should be: “I may not be much today, but I’ll be running this place soon enough, and doing plenty of favours for everyone who helped me on the way up.”

Don’t feel guilty about accepting help today, because you know you’ll be able to pay it back tenfold in a few years.

Ultimately, the specific details of how you plan to offer value are unimportant. Think outside the box, identify how you can serve others, and start delivering value to those around you, regardless of their immediate ability to reciprocate. The universe keeps a ledger.

Your Entire Life Is A Job Interview

It makes no sense to get stressed about job interviews. Your entire life is a job interview. The people around you are constantly evaluating the content of your character, your work ethic, and how you perform under pressure.

This is why personal networks are usually a manager’s first place to look for new hires. It’s not because of nepotism or corruption. There is just no better way to measure a man’s character than to watch him perform in a variety of situations, day in and day out, over a long period of time.

So how does a man succeed in the job interview of life? It’s simple. You have to be great, every minute of every day. People are watching you, and their observations will feed into their future decisions to offer you opportunities – or not. Make a habit of excellence, strength, commitment, and generosity, in every facet of your life.

Your college professors often receive calls from employers who ask questions like: “Jim ticks all the boxes on paper, but tell me: Should I give him the nod?”

Professors will make a point of calling friends in their industry and saying: “Hey, I’ve got a few students you really need to take a look at. John for example, doesn’t have the strongest GPA, but the kid’s smart, a hard worker, and a natural leader.”

Every minute of every day, your friends, colleagues, team mates, family, – they’re evaluating you. They’re asking themselves if they would hire you, partner with you on a business, introduce you to their sister, or bring you out with another group of friends.

They’re asking themselves: Is this guy the real deal? Or is he just some poseur? Is he going to embarrass me if I put my ass on the line for him? Or is he going to get the job done?

When a man is generous, honest, trustworthy, and has a strong work ethic, opportunities will rain down on him:

  • “I’ll pass your resume on to my manager.” Turns into, “I will corner my manager and I will demand that he sit down and meet you.”
  • “I’m starting a company, let’s celebrate!” Turns into, “I’m starting a company, and I want you to be a part of it.”
  • A personal network that believes in you will become your own personal sales team for whatever product or service you’re selling.

These sorts of relationships will be more valuable to you in your career than any prestigious degree or internship, but there is no shortcut. You must become a man who deserves the respect and generosity of others.


Clearly, this is a post about more than just resumes. My goal today is to give you an introduction to the practical applications of a generous, high-value, abundant mindset.

I want you to do more than just think about these ideas though, so I’m going to close with three quick exercises that you can do today. Try them out, and see what effect they have on how people treat you, and how you feel about yourself:

  1. Identify two strangers or casual acquaintances from your personal network who might benefit from an introduction. Send them an email and suggest they get together for coffee.
  2. Get together with a friend or acquaintance, and make it your goal to help them solve a problem before the end of your conversation. Find out as much as you can about the obstacles they’re dealing with in their life, and think about what you can do to help your friend overcome it. This exercise will help you be a better friend, and it will make you a better conversationalist (i.e. one who builds rapport on deeper topics, and who doesn’t talk about himself non-stop).
  3. Make a list of famous or semi-famous people whom you admire, and offer them your help and gratitude. This can be as simple as suggesting they check out an article relevant to their work, and expressing your thanks for the effect their work has had on you and your life.

Try each of these small exercises today. They won’t take long.

Further Reading

The concept of abundance and operating from a value-giving mindset are crucial in the teachings of the modern pickup artist movement. Yes, there is a lot of garbage in the PUA universe, but Real Social Dynamics on Youtube and the YaReally archive are both very good.

James Altucher writes: Give And You Will Receive

Danger and Play has a good post on Charisma and Building Rapport, and a podcast on Networking Like A Pro.

Stephen Covey originally popularized the importance of an abundance mentality in The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People, which remains a must-read book for any young man hoping to be successful in life.

How A Sexually Transmitted Disease Made Me A Better Man

Getting diagnosed with a sexually transmitted disease was one of the best things that ever happened to me. If you haven’t yet done so, I highly recommend you try it.

You think I’m being ironic. I promise that I’m not. My diagnosis with a common and transient sexually transmitted disease led to one of the more difficult and psychologically painful periods of my life. But the end result was worth it.

Lifting heavy weights will give you bigger, stronger muscles. Sparring with better fighters will make you tougher. Reading challenging books will make you smarter and more focused. Pushing through discomfort in negotiations and awkward approaches will make you more socially confident.

In the game of life, pain and difficulty lead to growth. Comfort leads to stagnation.

Going through a year of medically-enforced celibacy was a painful experience. It was frustrating and inconvenient on a physical level. More importantly, it made me acknowledge some uncomfortable truths about my values, my self-image, my inner resolve, and my priorities in life. It was painful, frightening – and necessary.

The Power Of Rejection

My first rejections weren’t particularly harsh or embarrassing. I asked out a few girls in middle school, and they said no. Other girls eventually said yes. Life went on.

But, those early rejections were traumatic. They created memories that stuck in my mind for years, creeping up unbidden during quiet moments of inward shame. It took four years of social and sexual success as an obnoxious high school bully for me to get over the feelings of inadequacy that I developed during a mildly awkward pre-teen phase.

If these brief and mild rejections were enough to hurt me as much as they did, I can’t imagine how much more difficult it must be for a young man to overcome a young adulthood of constant rejection. A man who is unsuccessful with women until his mid-twenties (not an uncommon story) will feel inclined to carry a chip on his shoulder for the rest of his life. He will pursue sexual conquests not for the sensual pleasure or the emotional connection, but rather for the base thrill of petty revenge. He will pursue sex, because sex is a confirmation of his value. He will take excessive pleasure in stories of older women ‘hitting the wall’, and of women rationalizing self-destructive relationships with men out of their league. He will waste precious hours of his life reading forums such as r/relationships and r/askwomen, reading gleefully the stories of the sort of women who rejected him years ago, receiving their comeuppance in the great karmic circle of life.

If all of this sounds familiar to you: Relax. I’m not here to lecture you on the morality of what you feel. But I will ask you some questions:

  • Are those feelings helpful and productive?
  • What purpose is served by holding on to your feelings of anger and inadequacy?
  • How many girls will you have to sleep with, before you can truly leave the past in the past, and focus on building the future that you want?

Rejection hurts. I get it. You can’t control what has happened to you in the past, and how it has affected you. But you do get to choose how it affects you from this minute onward. To quote Marcus Aurelius:

“Choose not to be harmed, and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed, and you haven’t been.”


The flip side of the sting of rejection, is the joy of acceptance. If you give a woman the power to crush your ego, you also give her the power to build it. There is no ego boost so powerful as the approval of an attractive woman. A woman’s interest is the validation of the sum total of your being, and it is much more powerful than any other achievement. Lifting a heavy weight suggests that you are physically strong. Earning money suggests you are intelligent, conscientious, and have skills that others value. But a woman’s desire demonstrates that, on a fundamental genetic level, you are worthy.

As men, we play games to measure our worth and sort ourselves into status hierarchies – but not all games are equal. Who is the true winner: The world champion Magic: The Gathering player? Or the team captain in an NHL franchise? No matter what pretty lies we tell ourselves, the final arbiter of earthly status is sexual access to pretty young women. Every fiber of a healthy man’s body desperately wants him to have sex with pretty young women. He is biologically programmed to judge his worth as a man according to his success at that task.

In the face of this awesome force, modern pick-up artists (often the closest successors we have to the ancient Stoics) preach the doctrine of outcome independence. According to this ideal, not only is it psychologically healthier for a man to base his self-worth on metrics other than his success with women; doing so will also make him a more effective seduction machine.

When I started having a lot of success with girls, I lacked outcome independence. I believed: Attractive women desire me. Therefore, I am a worthy man. I am accepted. I am complete.

But as the years went on, I started to tell myself that I had severed the link between the quality of women I was getting and my perceived self-worth.

If you had asked me, I would have told you that my confidence, my happiness, my pervading content – it was all unrelated to the validation of female approval. Even to the extent that I would have admitted an external basis to my self-esteem, I would have pointed you towards other accomplishments, other talents, and other relationships, and I would have said: “There! There is my self-worth! There is my ego!”

And I would have believed it – until I spent a year unable to use sex to reassure myself of my worth, and learned that I was completely full of shit.

Sexual Success Was A Necessary Part Of My Narcissistic Self-Image

The first thing I did when my doctor put me on sexual hiatus was think about the lies I would tell my friends. I was in no rush to share the truth with anyone. So, how was I going to explain to the world why I no longer had a new random girl on my arm every week?

During my celibate year, my story changed according to the audience I was in front of. For my work colleagues, who had grown accustomed to living vicariously through regular stories and Snapchats of debauchery, I invented a serious girlfriend who I didn’t like to talk about. While trading stories with friends over pints, I re-used past escapades that I had never gotten around to sharing, rather than sit in silence.

A better man could have told them something as simple, vague, and honest as, “I’m taking a break from dating right now.” But I wasn’t that man. I was incapable of defining myself independently of my sexual conquests. I was afraid of how I might appear to the world, without the incontrovertible social proof of constant access to desirable women.

For my entire adult life, I had defined myself as “the guy who gets a lot of girls.” It was one of the central pillars of my self-image. Maintaining this pillar had cost me time, energy, and a few relationships. Now it had cost me my health, but I still couldn’t put it aside. I couldn’t see myself as a man of value, unless that value was constantly validated by girls who wanted to sleep with me.

It’s easy to act like you’re outcome independent, when every outcome is coming up in your favour. But when that measuring stick was taken away from me, my ego flailed helplessly. Without sex, I became desperate for some instrument I could use to take stock of my worth.

Sex With New Girls Was My Purpose In Life

What’s my purpose in life? Surely it’s not to have sex with as many cute girls as possible, as often as possible. At least, that’s what I used to tell myself.

So how come I reacted to my diagnosis by drifting into spiritual ennui?

Even with the knowledge that my affliction was trivial and almost certainly temporary, and the logical understanding that a hiatus from the game would be a good opportunity to focus on other areas of my life, my motivation to become a better version of myself waned. What’s the point of working out and eating healthy? Why should I improve my skills, pursue leads, and grow my business? Why should I read great books for men?

I found that I didn’t have an answer. In retrospect, I had never come up with a good answer. Sleeping with a new girl every week was enough of a distraction to keep me from ever asking the question. Once that distraction was taken from me, I had nothing to keep me on track except for the good habits I had developed in the previous years of my life.

I had believed that success with women was an entertaining sideshow to my life, but my actions betrayed the reality of my reliance on sex for self-esteem, and a sense of purpose. Without the promise of sex with more and better women, I was adrift.

Pick-Up Culture Is A Road To Nowhere

Pick-up culture is a dead end. It is better than sitting in your room and doing nothing, and it is often a valuable stepping stone. But an identity built on the ability to attract women is a castle built on sand.

The pick-up movement has taken a set of genuine masculine virtues – social skills, sexual prowess, dominance, the ability to lead women – and turned them into cartoon caricatures. Every man should have the ability to approach and confidently seduce a woman. If you don’t, learning game should be a top priority in your life. But the existence of an entire sub-culture, with dedicated communities, language, and styles of dress – is odd and unhealthy.

The seduction community is an invaluable resource, and I have nothing but respect and gratitude for the men who have built it. But unless you are one of the few men who has made it his life’s work to understand and teach sexual dynamics – take what you need from it and move on. Don’t fall into the trap of defining yourself by the women you’re sleeping with.

You Are Not Your Notch Count

Sexual profligacy offers men an easy way to avoid difficult questions. Taking a vacation from the player lifestyle – voluntary or otherwise – is an important exercise towards better understanding who you are, and what motivates you. If sexual deprivation leads to a frustration of your physical desires, good – you are a healthy and vital man. But if it leads to an identity crisis and major psychological distress – as it did for me – you might benefit from asking: What needs am I really addressing with the pursuit of fresh conquests?

Jack Donovan and Chuck Palahniuk, authors of The Way Of Men and Fight Club, are two of the most insightful contemporary writers on the subject of men and masculinity. I once thought it was peculiar that they are both homosexuals, but it actually makes a lot of sense. Donovan and Palahniuk cannot define their worth as men by their ability to sleep with tons of women, so they are forced to look deeper.

In twenty-first century Western society, traditional masculine values are suppressed and demonized by a subversive culture committed to our destruction. Masculine energy is prohibited from finding its natural outlet in the construction and maintenance of a healthy civilization, so young men are confused, frustrated, and directionless.

One of our most common outlets is pick-up culture. We have identified one aspect of positive masculinity – sex with desirable women – and we have defined ourselves by it. We have built our egos, our lifestyles, and our identities around that one goal, and that’s not healthy.

You don’t have to become a monk. I’m certainly not. I continue to pursue sex, with the women I desire. But at this point in my life – after twenty-nine years, over a hundred girls, and a harsh reminder that I’m not as invincible and immune to consequences as I once thought – I’m no longer chasing sex to impress anyone, least of all myself.

Turning Pro

The metaphor of The Red Pill refers to the hidden, repressed nature of politically incorrect truths. We’re discovering new information, and discarding the lies that we’ve been taught.

But little of it is actually new. What we call “The Red Pill” was common knowledge to previous generations. For example, Shopenhauer, Shakespeare, and Jesus Christ would not have been surprised to learn that Chicks Dig Jerks. This forgotten wisdom is only new to us – a generation of men raised in the stifling and feminized culture of post-war progressivism.

And now that we have re-discovered it, we have made it widely available to anyone with a keyboard and an internet connection.

So… Why are there still so many broken men? Why is this still an obscure fringe movement?

Even the men who have “taken the red pill” are not out of the woods yet. Look in the mirror: Are you struggling in any aspect of your life? If so, why?

  • If you want to be healthy: Eat Paleo, lift heavy weights, do light cardio, juice vegetables, drink in moderation, and decrease stress
  • If you want to be financially comfortable: Earn money online, or just pick a lucrative career that matches your skills and disposition, work hard at it, and keep a disciplined budget
  • If you want to be successful with women: Get your health and money straight, take care of your appearance, learn game, and approach women regularly
  • If you want to be happy and pleasant to be around – read The Bible and pretend you believe it

All of the answers you need are right in front of your face. The information is out there. There’s just one problem…

Information Alone Is Insufficient

The Red Pill community contains a wealth of knowledge that young men can use to immediately start improving their lives. But it’s still a fringe movement. It’s still completely invisible to the vast majority of young western men. If we want to change that, then we have to think about how other men can be led to The Red Pill:

  • Men need to find the Red Pill community, via search engines, social media, or from talking to friends.
  • Men need to be interested in our knowledge. Our sites must quickly and clearly explain the value we offer.
  • Men need to trust what we are saying. Our sites must display markers of trustworthiness such as quality design, content, and marketing practices.
  • Finally, men need to be motivated to take action and start improving their lives. Our audience needs to be sold on the idea of making temporary sacrifice in their personal lives for long-term benefits.

In summary: It is not enough for The Red Pill to exist. It must be marketed. Young men must find The Red Pill; they must be convinced that we have the answers they need; and then they must be persuaded to turn information into action.

Being right is not enough. I’m tired of being right. I want to create a resource that pushes men to act.

What does this mean, in practice?

  • I’ve updated my three-year old web design, and implemented some basic internet marketing best practices. If you like the new design, check out the Genesis Framework and Magazine Theme for WordPress. If you like the logo, get in touch with Unlucky Devil.
  • I’m implementing a higher standard for all content that I publish. This will require more research, more efficient writing, and a greater focus on tweaks that will attract clicks, shares, and search engine traffic
  • I’m investing more time and energy into this blog – one full day per week.

Over the next month, my primary focus will be creating content that efficiently summarizes the best practices for men’s health, personal finance, dating, and productivity. My secondary focus will be bringing more readers to this blog, and improving my monetization strategies so I can continue to justify the time I spend on this project.

Are You Ready To Turn Pro?

If you think this post is self-indulgent, I encourage you to read between the lines and think about how you can apply these principles to your own life and projects. The lesson to take away is: If something is worth doing, it’s worth doing right.

Roosh understands this:

“You should be as focused on performing trivial tasks as important ones because this trains your brain to work at high levels. Otherwise, lazy thinking and poor performance will seep into the tasks that you actually want to perform well at.I dislike cleaning my apartment, but the energy I put into it is the same as writing this article. I clean slowly and thoroughly, knowing that this is training for other tasks that have more weight in life. Rushing also causes you to make mistakes, often prolonging the task longer than if you did it carefully in the first place. Creating a habit of excellency means you have to do everything excellently, no matter how trivial. Even when I wash dishes by hand, I make sure to do a first-rate job. If anything is worth doing in life, it’s worth doing right.”

And Stephen Pressfield explores this concept in his excellent book, Turning Pro:

“Turning pro is free, but it’s not easy. You don’t need to take a course or buy a product. All you have to do is change your mind.

Turning pro is free, but it’s not without cost. When we turn pro, we give up a life with which we may have become extremely comfortable. We give up a self that we have come to identify with and to call our own. We may have to give up friends, lovers, even spouses.

Turning pro is free, but it demands sacrifice. The passage is often accompanied by an interior odyssey whose trials are survived only at great cost, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. We pass through a membrane when we turn pro. It hurts. It’s messy and it’s scary. We tread in blood when we turn pro.

Turning pro is not for everyone. We have to be a little crazy to do it, or even to want to. In many ways the passage chooses us; we don’t choose it. We simply have no alternative.What we get when we turn pro is, we find our power. We find our will and our voice and we find our self-respect. We become who we always were but had, until then, been afraid to embrace and to live out.

Do you remember where you were on 9/11? You’ll remember where you were when you turn pro.”

It’s time for Thumotic – and the Red Pill blogosphere in general – to Turn Pro. From now on, I’m holding this blog to a higher standard. I’m investing the necessary time and energy to turn it into the best source of actionable self-improvement advice on the internet. I’m also operating the Red Pill Review – now with much faster load times and a freshly-updated top-ten lis – where I’m working to build an optimal content aggregator for this community. Check it out.

As for you, dear reader: What projects do you have in your life right now that you could be doing a better job on? What steps would you take, if you made the decision to Turn Pro? Let us know in the comments.

The Red Pill Review

Today is an exciting day, friends.

It is my great pleasure to announce the launch of The Red Pill Review: A complete guide to the Red Pill community.

The Red Pill Review is designed to be your gateway to all the best Red Pill content on the web.

Users can visit the website and immediately find:

  • Real-time RSS feed updates of recent posts from the Red Pill blogosphere.
  • Real-time Twitter updates.
  • The Top Ten Red Pill blog posts and podcasts from the previous week (updated every Sunday at 10pm).
  • A Red Pill reading list, updated regularly, with canonical Red Pill texts – from Aristotle and Seneca, to the books that have been published in recent years by talented contemporary Red Pill writers.

I built The Red Pill Review with three goals in mind:

  1. To provide a tool for readers to follow their favourite Red Pill blogs, and regularly expose themselves to new authors.
  2. To provide a channel for new Red Pill authors to quickly find their audience, and immediately receive feedback on their writing.
  3. To provide a platform for Red Pill authors to promote their books and products.

Each of these supports my ultimate goal of strengthening the Red Pill community as a tool for masculine self-development, and as a catalyst for the reactionary renaissance of Western Civilization.

You can learn more about the origins of Red Pill Review by reading the About page.

How Should I Use The Red Pill Review?

Great question.

Here’s how you shouldn’t use the new site. You shouldn’t use The Red Pill Review like a teenage girl uses Buzzfeed or Upworthy, randomly checking for new updates five times a day. Hopefully you have better things to do with your time.

Personally, I am “Jonathan Frost” for just one day per week. I ignore all blog posts, tweets, emails, forums, subreddits, etc, on the other six days. This is called an information diet.

I have designed Red Pill Review for men who are disciplined enough to stick to a proper information diet. I have designed the site to please the daily or weekly reader, and to offend and alienate the casual click-bait addict. For example, you will notice that load times for the larger feeds are about ~3 seconds, because the feeds are collecting several days worth of content.

What Makes Red Pill Review The Best?

Nothing at all.

Of course I prefer the visuals, UX, and content of Red Pill Review to the alternative link aggregators. When you design and build your own site, that’s usually the result.

But, there are several other excellent link aggregation sites run by other smart and trustworthy guys, and I highly recommend you check out: Kid Strangelove’s; Delusion Damage; Free Northerner‘s weekly link round up; and other sources of great Red Pill content such as Return Of Kings, The Red Pill on Reddit, Red Kings, and The Roosh Forum.

The only truly unique value proposition of The Red Pill Review is that I am the gatekeeper of what content makes the cut for inclusion. If your tastes and outlook on the world are similar to my own, you will get a lot of value from the new site.

However, if you are a squeaky-clean and sexless Neoreactionary, or a soul-less hedonist with no interest in preserving traditional Western Civilization, you’ll probably want to take your business elsewhere. The Red Pill Review is for men who recognize the synergy between Game, Masculinity, Self-Development, Traditionalism, and Truth.

It’ a small audience, perhaps. But, for those of you who match that description, welcome to your new home: The Red Pill Review.

The Six Habits That Make You A Man

I’ve made all kinds of mistakes in my life.

I spent four years fucking around in college. I backpacked around the world for a year like a dirty hippie when I should have been building my future like a grown man. I drank too much. I chased girls for the ego boost. I’ve slacked off in the pursuit of what I was put on this Earth to do.

These were the Mistakes I Made In My Early Twenties.

But – surprisingly – everything worked out great. Compared to the vast majority of men my age, I’m healthier, more financially secure, more successful with women, more knowledgeable, and surrounded by a network of high-quality friends and connections.

Despite the major screw-ups categorized in that post, I’ve still reached the age of twenty-eight with a great foundation for the rest of my life.

As I reflect on my life so far, I’ve realized that most of the good things that have happened to me have been the result of a few of simple habits. Simple doesn’t mean easy. But if you have the guts and the willpower to make the following six habits a part of your life, you will reach your late twenties in a much stronger position than your peers:

Habit #1 – Lift Weights

When I was in grade seven, the girl I liked was attracted to a friend of mine. I was a chubby kid at the time, and my friend had cool six-pack abs. I looked in the mirror and decided I wanted to make my body look like his.

I designed a simple body-weight exercise routine for myself and finished it every day for the summer. By grade eight, I had slimmed down and looked pretty good for a natty twelve year old. In grade ten, I started serious barbell training and never looked back.

There are a lot of surface benefits to weight training that you’re already familiar with:

  • You will get bigger and stronger
  • You will get more attention from girls
  • You will get more respect and deference from other men
  • You will have better overall health and energy levels
  • Your athletic performance will improve
  • You will have a higher quality of life in old age

But the truly important consequence of resistance training is that it teaches you the most valuable lesson you’ll ever learn in your life:

If you don’t like something about yourself, it is within your power to change it.

Obviously there are limits to this statement. We all have our natural strengths and weaknesses. Not every man has it in himself to be a fitness model or competitive power lifter. But every man has the ability to be a better version of himself. Every man has the ability to be the best version of himself.

Resistance training is the most ennobling of habits, because it is the purest expression of masculine values: Strength; Self-discipline; Control over your station in life.

If you have never lifted weights before, buy Starting Strength and start the program. Keep a training log, get a workout partner, eat steak and green vegetables, and never look back.

Habit #2 – Approach Women

A man must learn to accept rejection. Better yet, a man must learn to love rejection, and invite it into is life. Cold approaching women is the best way to cultivate this positive relationship with rejection.

You may never get over your fear of the approach. That’s OK. Courage is being afraid and doing it anyway. My heart still pumps when I’m gearing up for an approach, and I’ve done hundreds if not thousands.

Being completely immune to approach anxiety and the sting of rejection is like bench pressing five hundred pounds. It is a near-superhuman feat that only a small number of men are capable of.

But, almost any man can bench press three hundred pounds after a few years of hard training. A max bench of three hundred would get you laughed out of a real power lifting gym, but it’s still more than the vast majority of men will ever lift.

Similarly, the ability to overpower your fear and approach cute girls can be learned by almost everyone. Try the Good-Looking Loser Approach Anxiety Program, or The Pill That Cures Approach Anxiety. Once you get your first number from a girl you don’t know, you’re already ahead of the majority of men in this area of your life.

You may not have a lot of success with cold approaching, at first. That’s OK. The purpose of cold approaching isn’t to get laid. Cold approaching is about Conquering Your Ego. Cold approaching is about developing Social Freedom. Men must learn to cold approach, because not being able to cold approach is a symptom that you have deeper issues with your own self-confidence

Tinder, Plenty Of Fish, OK Cupid, and whatever else the kids are using today – they are all valuable tools that have their uses. Cold approaching is not inherently better than Getting Laid On Plenty Of Fish or Tinder. But if you can’t walk up to a hot woman on the street and introduce yourself, that’s evidence of an internal obstacle you need to work on overcoming.

Habit #3 – Read Great Books

Human beings have been writing about their experiences for ten thousand years. If you have a problem in your life, chances are someone has already solved it and written a book about it.

Don’t look at reading as a chore. Books are not obstacles to be overcome, they are tools that help you overcome obstacles. You don’t have to feel obligated to read the “right” books. Instead, think about the problems you’re facing in your life, and read books that help you solve them.

If you want to get healthier, read books about health and nutrition like The Paleo Manifesto.

If you want to get better with women, read Day BangSperm WarsModels and The Mating Mind.

If you want a lucrative and fulfilling career, read The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss, Getting Things Done by David Allen, How To Fail At Everything And Still Win Big by Scott Adams, and Choose Yourself by James Altucher.

If you want to learn about morality, epistemology, and the human condition, read Shakespeare, Hume, Seneca, Nietzsche, Aristotle, and The Bible.

But if you don’t want to read those books, don’t force it. At least not right away. Train yourself to love the written word, and revisit the ‘difficult’ books at a later age. For more reading recommendations, check out my page of Great Books For Men.

Habit #4 – Earn Good Friends

Most networking advice focuses on how to meet people.

This is fine as far as it goes. Small talk and basic etiquette are important skills to master.

But how do you go from being a guy who collects a lot of useless contact information, to being a man who has earned the friendship and loyalty of many high-value people?

Despite the fact that I’m often an extraordinarily difficult person to get along with, I’m fortunate to have many great friends. They are great people, from a morality and loyalty standpoint; They are great friends, in the sense that they have gone to great lengths to help me; and they are doing great things with their lives, with impressive careers and social circles of their own.

Why have my friends stuck by me, despite my long history of generally offensive, incendiary, socially inappropriate behaviour?

The only possible answer is that I bring more value into their lives than I take. Yes, I’ve ruined some parties and a wedding or two. Sure, I’ve broken some hearts. And there may have been a day of non-consensual hallucinogenic madness for some unwitting travel partners of mine in Laos, a story told in The 2012 End Of The World Tour.

But beneath all of that, I have made a lifelong commitment to offering value to my good friends.

The only way to consistently earn the friendship and loyalty of other strong men is by genuinely being a helpful and self-sacrificing person. If you want to come across as genuine and value-giving, you must actually be genuine and value-giving. If you truly go about your life with the goal of helping your friends and colleagues achieve success, you will attract similar-minded people into your life.

Here are some practical habits you can adopt that will help you cultivate a high-value social circle:

  • Enter social situations with one question on your mind: How can I help this person? How can I make it easy for them to enjoy this interaction? How can I make this an exchange of value, and positive emotions?
  • Once a week, send an email to someone you don’t know well, and help them with something. Suggest a business idea. Introduce them to someone useful to their goals. If they wrote something that impressed you, tell them.
  • Find a protege. Someone younger than you, but who has the potential to be greater than you will ever be. Mentor that person and make their success one of your primary goals in life.
  • If you think you have enough wisdom and life experience to help out the anonymous and far-flung men of the Red Pill blogosphere, start a blog of your own.

Do these things, and you will eventually find yourself surrounded by successful people who will have your back and who will be eager to help you out, because they know that when it comes down to it, you’re going to do the same for them.

Habit #5 – Live With Less

An acquaintance once told me about his business idea. I told him he would need a website, which he could build and host for less than a hundred dollars. That’s less than one hundred dollars, for a potentially life-changing idea. Ultimately he never followed through. This guy has a $1500/month mortgage and a new car, but he doesn’t have a hundred dollars to spare on a new business endeavour that could have changed his life.

I never bought a fancy condo. I never drove a new car. I rarely buy electronics or other expensive toys. I use all the same sports equipment I had when I was 19. I’m almost thirty and I still live in what is basically a frat house. I get a new student ID every year so I can get discounts.

Most people live paycheque to paycheque, no matter how much money they make. If I lived like that, I would ever have been able to travel. I would never have been able to quit my job to start a business. I would have to count every dollar while out eating and drinking with friends and girls, rather than just letting the night flow.

Frugality is not about being “cheap.” In fact, frugality will free you from financial concerns and will allow you to be more generous.

I spend money prolifically in a few areas of my life. I buy tons of books, I eat out, I buy organic meat at twice the price of regular stuff. I’m able to be prolific on the important things that actually improve my life, because I’m cheap when it comes to the bullshit trappings of yuppie status-climbing.

When I’ve had to work nine-to-five jobs, I’ve saved between one quarter and one half of every paycheque. This has given me the freedom to leave those jobs whenever I’ve wanted to.

The last thing you want to be is the cheap guy who disappears whenever it’s his turn for a round. But if you have the self-control to rein in your spending on the unimportant status markers, you will have much more financial and time freedom to pursue what is actually important in your life.

Habit #6 – Prayer

Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism, and every other religious and spiritual tradition known to man, all strongly emphasize the importance of regular prayer. They may use different words, but the practice is the same: Quiet reflection on what we are grateful for, what we desire, and the cultivation of humility.

It would be very surprising if a habit practiced by civilized men throughout human history was not beneficial. Unsurprisingly, prayer (and variants such as meditation and gratitude journals) are regularly found to improve physical and mental well-being.

Prayer does not require a man to adopt a certain pose, recite a certain set of lines, or face in a certain direction. Many of my former coaches insisted on a game day ritual of one hour spent silently visualizing what we wanted to happen on the field. Several people who I trust have reported shockingly powerful results from writing and reciting daily affirmations.

You can call your prayer habit “meditation,” or “gratitude,” or even Neurolinguistic Programming. It’s all the same action under a different brand.

Here are some simple steps to get started. A secular habit of daily prayer could go something like this:

  1. Recite a short mantra, to trigger a calm and meditative state
  2. Reflect on what you have to be grateful for from the day
  3. Reflect on any wrongs you have done. Ask for forgiveness, and grant it to those who may have wronged you.
  4. Reflect on what you currently desire in life. Humbly ask for help in fulfilling those desires.

(I am an agnostic and was raised in a thoroughly atheistic household, but I find this to be as good a mantra as any.)


Life isn’t easy, but it’s also not complicated. If you follow the six habits outlined in this post in your early adulthood, you will reach your late twenties in a very strong position. You will be healthier, wealthier, happier, and more socially successful than the majority of other men.

Maybe that sounds too easy.

But it really is that easy, because the men of our generation are broken. They are fat and weak; they are ignorant; they are impulsive; they are selfish; and they are fearful. If we lived in a healthy society, it would take more than these six simple habits to rise to the top. We don’t, so it doesn’t.

Mistakes I Made In My Early Twenties

“The wise man learns from someone else’s mistakes, the smart man learns from his own, and the stupid one never learns.”

I’ve had quite a bit more success in life than most twenty-eight year olds. But I’ve also endured some self-inflicted setbacks. I don’t dwell on these mistakes, but I do try to learn from them. If you’re a young man trying to figure out life, maybe you can learn from them too.

Here are five mistakes I made in my early twenties, and how you can avoid making them yourself:

1)  Taking A Gap Year

Shortly after finishing school, I spent a year traveling through Southeast Asia, India and Europe. It was an incredible experience. It opened my eyes to the sort of life I wanted to live. I met generous and interesting people all over the world, friends who I hope to stay in contact with for life. I wrote a book. I became a better person.

But, I made one big mistake during my time abroad: I treated it like a “Gap Year.” I spent too much of my time partying, chasing girls, sightseeing, and dicking around.

It was a lot of fun, but I should have spent more of my time learning, writing, working, and seeking out business opportunities. I don’t regret my decision to spend a year traveling. But I should have approached that year with more focus, and with more commitment to personal growth. Instead, I treated it like a vacation.

But no twenty-something deserves a vacation. I would even say no thirty-something deserves a vacation. Weekend in Vegas? Sure. A month or two of backpacking to celebrate a major life milestone? OK. But no long-term travel for its own sake, no mini-retirements, and no “gap years” when you’re a young man – wait until you’ve earned it. Don’t become the filthy 38-year old hippie trying to bargain with the owner of a $3/night hostel.

2) Letting Alcohol Control Me

Between the ages of seventeen and twenty-three, I drank and partied heavily several nights a week. My entire social life revolved around alcohol. I spent almost half my waking hours either drunk or hungover.

The crazy thing is that my drinking habits were only a bit above average in my peer group. I played rugby at a big college, and ran with a few hard-partying circles. As a result, my behaviour felt completely natural.

I’m not anti-alcohol. Drinking is fun, and it’s often a necessary part of building relationships with friends, girls, and clients. The health effects of somewhat-responsible drinking habits are not severe.

But when I reflect on the hours, days, and years of my life that I’ve lost, I realize that I should have drank much, much less. I should have resisted the college binge drinking culture that so many of us accept as ordinary, without even thinking about it.

Mistake #3: Having Sex With Mediocre Girls

I’ve slept a lot of women in my life. Definitely over a hundred, and maybe closer to two.


Well, sex is a lot of fun. So is The Chase, and of course, The Validation.

But among my conquests, I would guess that roughly 10% were really and truly memorable. 40% were nice to have. And fully half were not even worth the trouble. I’ve had some great experiences with some incredible women, but I’ve also had a lot of mediocre sex with a lot of mediocre girls.

How many nights did I spend time and money chasing fresh tail, when I had girls waiting for a call, who were of better quality than 90% of what was at the bar?

How many relationships with amazing girls did I ruin because my ego demanded variety?

How many casual lays did I keep in the rotation just so I could feel like a cool-guy player?

The Good-Looking Loser has a great post on Guys Who Get Laid versus Guys Who Get Validation. In my late twenties, I’m realizing that most of the girls I chased in my youth, I chased for the validation. Yes, I wanted to get laid. But more than that, I wanted to be the guy who got laid. I wanted the respect of the girls, friends, and complete strangers whom (I hoped) saw me as the “cool player guy.” As a result, I over-valued variety, above and beyond what I really wanted. I got sucked into chasing Validation, instead of satisfaction, happiness, and meaning.

In addition to the Validation Trap, the life of the player is inherently risky. Pregnancies, STDs, false rape accusations, and other hazards are out there. The risks are worth it, for the quality girls. But most girls are not worth the time it takes to fuck them, let alone risking the rest of your life.

Just to be clear: The last thing I want to do is push guys away from the seduction community. All young men should be learning game, approaching girls, and working on the skills they need to sleep with attractive women.

What I am saying is this: Look inside and ask yourself if you’re chasing girls for sex, or validation. If sleeping with hundreds of girls isn’t what you truly want, don’t do it. If you value quality over quantity, go out hunting with a sniper rifle instead of a P90.

Mistake #4: Not Writing Enough

This bullet will surprise those who know me. I’ve written hundreds and thousands, maybe even millions of words, over the past decade. I’ve written blogs, books, columns, journals, and even some truly awful poetry.

But no matter how much time I’ve spent writing, I wish I’d spent more. Writing forces me to organize my thoughts. It builds mental rigour, and my habit of writing publicly in the Red Pill/Manosphere/Dark Enlightenment has introduced me to an incredibly valuable network. I’ve gotten so much help from so many people, and I’ve hopefully been able to give back as well.

I highly recommend that all young men develop the habit of writing often. Writing a private journal is a great way to start. Once you’re comfortable with your ability to express yourself, start a blog of your own.

Mistake #5: Going To College

My college experience was better than most. I got a great job in my field right out of school. I made a lot of lifelong friends in college, and I had an absolutely amazing time (see mistakes #2 and #3).

Still, if I could go back in time and talk to my eighteen year old self, I think I would tell him to skip the post-secondary education charade entirely. I suppose I got something out of my education, and it definitely opened up doors for me, but what about the opportunity cost? What else might I have done with those five years?

At the ripe old age of twenty-eight, and after having made a career change into a completely unrelated field, I think I would have been better off if I had skipped college entirely.

Young men, the world is full of opportunity. Not much of it can be found on the politically correct and bureaucratic diploma mills that litter the American continent. Unless you’re earning a marketable degree from a top school, skip college and go do something real with your life.


As you can see, I’ve really and truly fucked up a few major areas of my life throughout my early- and mid-twenties. I’ve made several major mistakes that have held me back, and cost me several years of my life.

But I don’t dwell on my mistakes, because I’ve managed to build a great foundation for life in my twenties despite them.

How I did that is the subject of a follow-up post: The Habits That Make You A Man.

Thumotic Readers: What mistakes have you made in your life? What were the consequences? What new habits have you adopted to correct your path? Please provide some background for context, including your approximate age.

How To Set And Achieve Goals

Setting intelligent goals is one of the most important habits that a young man can cultivate in his life. This post will teach you to go about setting and achieving goals that will increase your productivity, your focus, and your self-awareness.

If you don’t have goals, you are coasting through life. You will probably become an unwitting slave to someone else, someone with specific goals in life and a plan to realize them. If you do the exercises in this post, you will watch your life start to get much, much better. It’s that simple.

Before we get to the exercises, here are the three primary benefits of smart goal-setting.

1) Self-Awareness

Most people have no idea what they want out of life. Almost everyone thinks they know exactly what they want, but ask them to their face – or better yet, ask them to put it down on paper – and suddenly their minds go blank.

Writing down your long term goals isn’t just an exercise in writing. It’s an exercise in introspection and self-analysis. Writing clarifies thought and forces intellectual rigour. As Paul Graham wrote: Writing doesn’t just communicate ideas; it generates them. Writing down goals transforms them from a soupy mash of vague thoughts and feelings in your brain, into concrete words on paper.

2) Visualization

I read The Secret and it changed my life. No, I’m kidding. But I did read The Secret and thought it had a lot of good advice, regardless of whether or not I believe in magical brain vibrations.

For the unenlightened reader, The Secret argues that visualizing what you want in life and concentrating on your desired end state, will send good vibrations into the universe, and the universe will then reward you with whatever you want.

Is this bullshit? Almost certainly. But the human mind and body are strange and wonderful pieces of machinery. Sugar pills can have amazing positive effects on our health. Believing that we are smarter or luckier can make it so. The excellent book Think and Grow Rich recommends the same practice as The Secret, without insulting your intelligence.

3) Planning

Rigorous goal-setting forces you to be meticulous with your planning, realistic with your expectations, and constantly aware of whether your daily habits are helping or hindering your progress towards your goals.

Goal-setting also involves tracking progress, setting milestones, and taking reality checks to keep you focused on progressing towards whatever your end goal is. It’s impossible to plan for the distant future, if you’ve never even considered it.

Now let’s all look at a picture of a pretty girl, and consider what her goals in life might be. Or whatever.


The rest of this post breaks down the goal-setting exercises that I’ve found to be the most valuable in my life. These exercises will take you a long time, possibly a full day of hard work.

If you’re a young man, or you’re in a rough spot in life, these exercises will provoke some hard questions. The answers may be painful, but these are necessary conversations for you to have with yourself. If you’re a man who generally has his shit together, they will help you clarify the path you’re on, identify the incremental improvements you can make, and set yourself up for a new year of ass-kicking on an unprecedented scale.

Go into as much detail as possible on each exercise, and be completely honest with yourself.

The Goal-Setting Exercises

1) Skills and values inventory (2-3 pages)

What do you like to do? What do you not like to do?

What are you good at? What aren’t you good at?

2) Long term visualization (5+ pages)

Describe yourself in twenty years. What have you accomplished? How do you spend your time? What are your plans for the future?

What are your daily habits, specifically those that contributed to your success?

Write with rich and specific descriptions. Write about your house, your family, your job/company. Close your eyes and really picture it. Now do the same exercise twice more, picturing yourself one year from now, and one month from now.

3) The Plan (5+ pages)

Recall your future self in exercise #2.What path did you take to get there? Imagine you’re giving an interview for a magazine profile. Tell your life story, the steps you took to achieve what you did, and the major obstacles along the way.

4) The Goals

Now you have a clear picture of the man that you want to be. You know what your future holds, and you know what steps you have to take to get there. The final portion of the exercise is to translate that picture into specific, realistic and measurable goals. There are two types of goals: Process-oriented and results-oriented.

Results-oriented goals are of the form:

  • Deadlift 405 lbs
  • Sign $50,000 in new contracts
  • Sleep with twenty new girls

While process-oriented goals are of the form:

  • Go to the gym three days a week
  • Cold call at least 100 potential new clients
  • Go out and approach at least two nights per week

You should create a mix of results- and process-oriented goals. Process goals have the advantage of being 100% under your control, but Results goals have the advantage of being results.

For both types, set goals that are challenging but attainable.

Put a specific time limit on your goals. For example, deadlift 405lbs by March 1st. Go to the gym three days a week for all of January.

Track your goals. Make spreadsheets and commit to filling them out on a regular basis. What gets measured, gets managed.

You should also divide your goals into categories. In The Thumotic Lifestyle Guide, I break life down into five categories: Health, Wealth, Sex, Focus, and Purpose. My philosophy is that a man should tackle each area of his life in that order. You won’t be successful in your career if you let your health deteriorate; it’s stupid too spend twenty hours a week approaching if you’re broke and can’t do a single pull-up; if you’re a 25-year old virgin, you have more important things to do than read Herodotus. You should not ignore every other aspect of your life while focusing on whichever one you’re at, just make sure to prioritize them in that order: Health, Wealth, Sex, Focus, Purpose.

Speaking of sex, this post is getting long and were about to wrap up, so here’s another girl:


Thumotic readers, the new year is upon us. The final piece of goal-setting wisdom that I will pass on to you is this: Do not go blabbing about your goals to every friend and family member you know. The majority of them will resent you for your efforts at self-improvement, and you will be less likely to follow through on your goals if you wallow in the good feelings of telling everyone about them. Save that dopamine for when you’ve actually done something. You’ll note that I haven’t shared my own goals for the new year, but I will say that it looks like it will be a big Q1 2014 and hopefully an even bigger Q2-Q4.

If you have any questions about any of these exercises, fire away. Also feel free to share your own approaches to goal-setting and performance tracking.

How To Avoid A False Rape Accusation

There have been a few high-profile false rape accusations in the news recently, and this is justifiably terrifying to college-age men. If you are a young man in an English-speaking country today, it’s important to be aware of this possible threat and take appropriate measures to protect yourself. As Danger and Play wrote in a post on the topic:

“Although you often read of the dangers women face from “date rape,” in truth, men are just as likely to be falsely accused of rape as women are to be actually raped. Not even the most feminist criminal defense lawyer will deny what I’m about to tell you: Fifty-percent of date rape cases are outright false.”

This post is a practical and no-nonsense guide to avoiding false rape accusations for the modern sexually active young man.

I’m writing specifically for a college age audience in this post, because young guys are the most vulnerable. As you get older, you’ll develop a better instinct for identifying and avoiding high-risk women. You’ll also develop the options and self-control to take a pass on girls covered in red flags. All of this will come with time. But for now, you lack maturity, you are full of testosterone, and you don’t have the wisdom or life experience to always make good decisions. As a result, there is a very real chance that you will do something stupid, earn the rage of a tyrannical and unjust set of laws, and ruin your life – unless you follow these five pieces of advice:

1. Be Attractive

Here’s a funny video with more than a grain of truth to it:

Provided you are not actually raping anyone (an assumption we are making throughout this post) a woman will only accuse you of sexual assault or rape if she regrets sleeping with you.

The reality of modern dating is this: Attractive men can often get away with literally anything. Hence why Ted Bundy had legions of fans (link to video) and Billy Beta got a drink thrown in his face for telling a girl her dress was cute.

Fortunately, being attractive is not beyond the reach of the vast majority of men. Work out, eat right, dress well, and most importantly – learn Game. Male attractiveness is largely behavioural, and false accusations are generally made against men who behave unattractively. Consider this study on the most common personality profile of victims of false domestic violence charges:

“They tend to be your average nice guy who has a more nurturing and passive personality. These men are unlikely to be socially aggressive or competitive and tend to lack insight into their personal relationships, which may explain why so many of these men are thrown for a loop when their ex throws them under the bus — even when she’s made threats throughout their marriage to call 911 and have him arrested (Wakefield & Underwager, 1990).”

(Domestic violence is not rape, but I believe the same principles apply.)

Learning and practicing Game will turn you into the sort of man who women wake up excited to brag to their friends about having slept with. As messed up as that is, this is your best line of defense against a false rape accusation.

2. Don’t Date Feminists

Stay far, far away from any girl who enthusiastically identifies as a feminist.

There are many reasons why men with options don’t date feminists. Feminist women are much more likely to hold negative attitudes towards men, have mental health issues, and have serious issues with their sexuality.

Decent girls do not make false rape accusations. Sick, damaged, unloved dregs of society – i.e the sort that gravitate towards the feminist social justice warrior mentality – make false rape accusations.

3) Don’t Be A Jerk

Having sex with a somewhat drunk girl; pressuring a girl into sex; cutting off contact with a girl after promising her that you’ll love her to the end of time – none of these are the moral equivalent of actual rape. In a sane world, we would consider such behaviour rude and inconsiderate, but nothing more.

In the world we live in however, we are approaching a legal environment in which all acts that hurt a girl’s feelings are legally considered rape. Hurt feelings can generally be alleviated by practicing rule #1, but it’s also prudent to avoid being a dick unnecessarily.

When I was young, I used to be an asshole to girls for no reason at all. It was fun to push buttons, test social boundaries, and see what I could get away with. Today, at the ripe old age of twenty-eight, I am a much nicer guy. I let girls down easy. I make them feel good about sex with me, and whatever length of relationship we have. I stand in stark contrast to my early-twenties self.

Part of this change is a genuine desire to be a better person to the people who enter my life, but it’s also practical. It’s bad karma to live in a city or campus filled with jilted girls who hate your guts. Bad karma is never a good thing, but it’s especially risky in an age when there is no clear legal distinction between regret and rape.

4) Record Yourself

Is it weird to capture video and/or audio of the girls you sleep with? Is it ‘paranoid?’ Maybe. But there are very few ‘paranoid’ men in jail for rapes they didn’t commit. Buy a webcam or use your phone’s audio recorder. For many famous athletes, musicians and actors, this is standard operating procedure to protect themselves. From Danger and Play:

“Four Hofstra college students were accused of gang-raping a fellow student. They were thrown into jail, and held without bail. Had they gone to trial, they’d have been convicted.

Yet the men were released from prison, after one of the defendant’s lawyers produced a cell phone video of the encounter, proving it was consensual.

Even lawyers need to beware of false rape accusations. A San Francisco lawyer was charged with raping three women, and held effectively without bond. Luckily he had videotaped sexual encounters with two of the women, and most charges were dismissed against him.

Unfortunately, he did not videotape his sexual encounter with the third accuser, and thus still faces trial.

Some will ask about the legality of secretly recording sexual encounters. Cap We Tape provides an excellent overview of the legal landscape. One must highlight that lawyer in California illegally recorded his sexual encounters. Breaking the law saved his life.”

In the event that you haven’t recorded a hook up, and a girl seems to be heading down the path of making a false accusation, consider the option of bluffing and telling her that you did record the sex. Of course, be sure to check with a lawyer to make sure you don’t break any laws in your jurisdiction.

5) Develop Post-Bang Game

Most girls are in an emotional state after they bang a new guy. A man with solid game can manage and lead that emotional state, to ensure that the girl feels good about the sex that took place. You must be kind and considerate, but also strong.

Do not kick her out, leave her place, ignore her, leave the room, act cold, or make her feel like a slut and that you have lost respect for her.

At the same time, do not melt into a quivering puddle of lovey-dovey weakness. Be the same man you were when you seduced her, but with just a bit softer of an exterior. Be strong, be kind, and maintain a frame of “That was fun and no big deal. Sex is fun and it happens all the time.” Keep giving her positive emotions; make her feel safe, happy and validated.

Roosh nails it in his analysis of the emotional mind state that women who make false rape accusations are in:

“American girls primarily pick their sexual partners based on feelings instead of logic. She fucks you not because you’re a good man who matches her reasoned compatibility criteria, but because you made her pussy wet with a cocky attitude and aloof nature. The problem with selecting sex partners based on feelings is that if she happens to get a bad feeling about you right after sex, she’s going to back-rationalize and find a way to blame you for it.

Live by feelings, die by feelings. When women let sex be determined by little feelings inside their tummies, they will inevitably pick partners that will make them feel regret afterwards. Unfortunately for men, the repercussions from her feelings can have real-world consequences. Be firm in the face of those negative feelings to survive the whimsy of her hamster brain. These days not only do you need game in fucking American women, but you also need to be a psychologist to deal with the unpredictable aftermath.”

6. Confirm with a “Good Feelings Text”

It’s five AM. She’s left your place, full of good emotions. But what if that changes by noon tomorrow? What if she has a talk with her roommate or boyfriend and suddenly feels guilty? She thinks: I am obviously not a slut or a cheater, so if I slept with a guy I just met, there must be someone else at fault, right? I mean, I had a few drinks. And when we first started fooling around, I pushed his hand away the first time he tried to take off my bra, right? Maybe I should head down to the campus women’s support centre and see what they think…

And this is why you should send a text immediately after she leaves your place:

“Had a blast tonight. txt me when you get home safe.”

Or something like that.

Some might ask: Was that beta? Maybe it was. But, better beta for a day than an inmate for life.


The prevalence of false rape accusations, and the complete invisibility of this issue to most media sources is why more and more men are abandoning the mainstream media and spending time reading sites like Thumotic. Educate your friends by sharing this link, and check out the resources below to learn more about false rape accusations and how you can protect yourself from them.


I’m not the first author to take on this subject:

Roosh: How To Avoid A False Rape Accusation

Danger and Play: How To Avoid A False Rape Case

The False Rape Society: How To Avoid A False Rape Charge

Return Of Kings: Game Can Protect You From False Rape Accusations

Laid NYC: Avoiding False Rape Accusations

Kid Strangelove: The I Didn’t Rape You Text

Five Novels and Memoirs By Red Pill Authors

Men don’t read anymore.

Sure, you’re reading this right now. And I might catch a stop sign or two on my way to work this morning. But when it comes to “real” reading, men make up a mere 20% of book sales in England, the USA and Canada.

This is probably because we’re misogynist, patriarchal dullards who just can’t appreciate the subtle lyrical beauty of 50 Shades Of Grey Part 2: Fifty Shades Grey-er. But here’s another theory from Vox Day:

“How, one wonders, does a disinclination to read what women like to read – which is to say books like The Hunger Games, Twilight, 50 Shades of Grey, and the current NYT bestseller, Dear Life, by Alice Munro, which features stories such as this one: “A young woman ventures to a remote area to assume teaching duties in a TB sanitarium, soon entering into a dismal relationship with the head doctor” – somehow translate into being a spoiled little crybaby or an adolescent?

I now have zero – ZERO – interest in the vast majority of what presently passes for science fiction and mystery. Not because I dislike the genres, but because I dislike what the women who undeniably dominate the publishing industry insist on publishing as “science fiction” and “mystery”. And as a writer, I can say from direct personal influence that no matter how good the book is, or how significant its potential, if the book doesn’t “speak to me”, as one editor said, it’s simply not going to be published.

And guess what sort of books don’t speak to the sort of women who work in publishing? The very sort of books that men most prefer to read, which is books that reflect masculine perspectives and honor masculine virtues.

So who is to blame for the fact that most men have quit reading? The answer is obvious: whoever is responsible for refusing to publish the sort of books that men used to read.”

Vox is correct. If men have stopped reading books, it’s because of the domination of the publishing industry by feminist women and the occasional lickspittle mangina. But men still read, hence why we are seeing the growth of literary domains which bypass the traditional gatekeepers of the publishing industry.

Within the next five years, I expect the rapid growth of an alternative literary culture which does not associate itself with any traditional publishing houses and dominates the under-served market of young male readers looking to read books about men being men.

Gentlemen, if Alice Munro just isn’t doing it for you, here are five great contemporary novels and memoirs for your reading pile:

1) As I Walk These Broken Roads, by Davis Aurini

As I Walk These Broken Roads is a post-apocalyptic bromance thriller, and it is the best book ever written in this genre (also the worst). Jokes aside, it is a damn good book in any category. It’s gripping, entertaining, immersive, and manages to walk the incredibly fine line of being very thoughtful and deep, while staying true to its core as a character-driven suspense thriller.

As a suspense novel, it is a great read. As a bromantic comedy, it is quite funny and moving in a very understated, masculine way. As a meditation on the nature of society in general, and our own in particular, it is the sort of book that often pops into my mind after putting it down, and one I look forward to re-reading. Most importantly, Aurini has created an extremely interesting post-apocalyptic world, a fascinatingly ambiguous protagonist, and a story with enough deliberate loose ends to leave me eagerly awaiting the sequels.

2) A Dead Bat In Paraguay, by Roosh V

A Dead Bat In Paraguay is Roosh’s account of his year of backpacking around South America, his first major trip abroad. I read this book twice – once before a one-year trip of my own, and once afterward.

I think that reading Dead Bat was the most important “research” I did prior to my trip. In general, travel advice is written by people who are either 1) Excessively paranoid and risk averse, and 2) Focused entirely on the positive aspects of their travels while neglecting the downsides. Dead Bat in Paraguay is brutally honest account of Roosh getting his ass kicked all over South America – difficult girls, health problems, loneliness, and the general discomfort and hassle of living life out of a backpack. But despite it all, it’s also a story of personal growth and redemption that makes all the pain worthwhile.

If you’re new to the Red Pill scene, you may not even know about this book, since Roosh wrote it many years ago when he was just a wee lad, but it is the most honest and thoughtful travel memoirs that I’ve read, and perfectly captures many aspects of the 21st-century wave of aimless backpacking young men. Absolute must-read if you’re contemplating a life that involves long-term travel.

3) Naughty Nomad: Not Your Typical Backpacker’s Story, by Mark Zolo

I like to party and I’ve done some crazy shit, but the Naughty Nomad is on a whole other level. I would have thought that Mark Zolo is full of shit, if I didn’t know already know better. The Naughty Nomad has also recorded a video series about his latest trip to Somalia, so you can see this crazy dude in action.

NN’s book is not a tragedy and return from grace like Dead Bat, nor a navel-gazing paen to freedom like my own travel memoir (coming up next in the list). This book is just a hilarious and fun account of his absolutely insane adventures traveling to every corner of the world, that you will make you laugh out loud, and inspire you to get a little more wild in your own life.

4) The 2012 End Of The World Tour, by *this guy right here*

The 2012 End Of The World Tour is a collection of stories and musings from the year following my decision to quit a soul-sucking office job a year after graduating college, and set off for a blast of a year of backpacking around Southeast Asia, India, and Europe. My goal in writing this book was to give the reader a representative sample of the experiences and emotions that a young man can expect to go through, during his first attempt at long-term travel. I highly recommend it to any young men considering taking a similar leap of faith.

5) A Generation Of Men, also by *this guy right here*

A Generation Of Men is my first novel, about three American undergraduate men struggling with a culture that hasn’t properly equipped them for adult life. It’s also a bit of a seduction/Red Pill roman a clef. My goal in writing A Generation Of Men was to capture a snapshot of North America in the early 21st century, particularly the seduction and Red Pill communities, while exploring the nature of a lost, fatherless generation – us – and our reaction to it. If your interested in seduction, personal development, and the challenges facing young men in the 21st century, you should pick up A Generation Of Men.

So there you have it. Five books that were written for you, and not for the politically correct weenies that make up the vast majority of the staff and clientele of the major American publishing houses.  Order whichever one strikes you as the most interesting, and see what it’s like to read a book by an author who doesn’t secretly hate you and your ideals.

Seven Ways The Red Pill Will Improve Your Life

Above all else, the Red Pill is about self-improvement. Sure, we enjoy a good laugh at rotund feminists and mentally ill manginas, as much as the next fella. But that’s just an entertaining sideshow. At our core, we are a group of men dedicated to self-improvement in every facet of our lives.

The Red Pill community did not invent self-improvement. We did not invent dating advice. We did not invent lifting weights, confidence, frugality, focus, or entrepreneurship. So what makes us unique?

I argue that we have two major advantages over mainstream sources of personal development advice. One is a willingness to be politically incorrect.  When it comes down to being right, or being polite, Dear Abby will choose politeness every time. The Red Pill will not.

The second advantage is a healthy mistrust of conventional wisdom.

The Red Pill man has come to learn that his official information sources (academia, mainstream media, and conventional wisdom) are not to be trusted. So while most men blindly follow the standard terrible advice that a healthy diet includes a loaf of bread every day, the Red Pill man will not resist the idea that eating paleo is the way to go, no matter what the academics, experts, and USDA food pyramid says:


(Red Pill Truth: You should literally eat the exact opposite of what this chart suggests.)

If you’re new to this corner of the internet, this post is an introduction to what the community has to offer you. If you’re a veteran, share this article with friends who you think can benefit from some Red Pill wisdom. Now let’s get started and take a look at Seven Ways The Red Pill Will Improve Your Life:

1. You will stop reading bullshit on the internet

What are you reading right now? Is it a list of 20 Signs That You Were A 90s Kid? Is it 14 Celebrity Reactions To The New Miley Twerk Video? No, you are reading about seven ideas that will make you stronger, smarter, more productive, and more successful in life. Welcome to the Red Pill, a ‘safe space’ for men who actually give a shit.

The rest of the world is filled with men who have given up on life. Men who will call you ‘obsessed’ if you work out and stick to a diet. Men who will not approach beautiful women because they’re afraid of being ‘creepy.’ Here is a picture of a gathering of men from the mangina core of Reddit, who almost certainly think that The Red Pill is bad, bad, bad:

reddit meetup

In contrast, I have met a few guys from the Roosh V Forum and they have all been impressive and interesting people, working hard and hustling to improve themselves.

My favourite sentence of all time (credit to Jim Rohn) is: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” I believe it applies to online communities as well.

So, are you going to be a man who spends his time on sites like Thumotic, Danger and Play, Good-Looking Loser, Bold and Determined, RooshV and Return of Kings? Or are you going to be a Buzzfeed, Huffington Post, Upworthy sort of guy?

2. You will stop following mainstream dating advice

Here’s a fun game. Go to a mainstream relationship advice forum (such as r/relationshipadvice) and click through a few threads. Conventional dating advice to men consists of a few cliched refrains:

  • Talk to her about it! [Translation: verbalize and try to use logic to change her behaviour]
  • Go to couples therapy! [Go to a brain-dead misandrist academic who will view every relationship issue through the lens of the female imperative]
  • Stop being selfish and respect her need to ___ (stop having wants, needs, and standards of behaviour for her)

This is – to put it lightly – not the same advice you will receive from men like Heartiste, Krauser, and YaReally. Mainstream dating and relationship advice consists of equal parts useless platitudes, and counter-productive self-sabotage.

3. You will stop following mainstream health advice

I have been pushing the paleolithic diet on my friends and family for almost five years now, ever since Gary Taubes’ excellent book, Good Calories Bad Calories. The world is starting to come around with popular books such as Wheat Belly, (a good popular introduction) but the evidence has been clearly in favour of high-fat, grain-free diets for a long time. As Taubes points out, diet books from the 1800s recommended restricting bread and pasta.

But the majority of people were very slow to come around to the idea that grain makes you fat and unhealthy, because it is the exact opposite of what they’ve been taught by respectable academics and mainstream media since the 1970s (coincidentally, the same time period when Americans started to get fat).

In my case – as a proto-Red Pill man who already recognized the conventional wisdom in economics, political correctness, and a few other topics – I was immediately receptive to the idea that ‘official science’ could be deeply flawed, and adopted healthier eating habits.

The Red Pill community is also one of the few places that keeps an open mind to the potential benefits of Testosterone Replacement Therapy for Young Men. The benefits of TRT for 30+ (and some 20+) men are indisputable, and yet most online communities won’t mention anabolic steroids, either out of ignorance or a desire to sell you supplements. I wonder what this guy’s secret is:


Could it be Zinc? Vitamin D? Is his whey isolate 99.9% pure while mine is just 99%? Does he use HIIT or high volume?

Not to rag on good training, diet and supplement advice (I supplement with Zinc and Vitamin D and I recommend you do the same) but it is ridiculous to write about high-level strength training and bodybuilding, without mentioning the elephant in the room. Red Pill blogs will not hold back from telling you the truth.

4. You will avoid making stupid mistakes that will ruin your life

It’s a hard world out there, and men are not helping themselves by making unforced errors. The Red Pill is the only community that gives you the no-nonsense advice to avoid the major landlines: Don’t marry the wrong woman. Don’t get accused of rape. Don’t get a worthless university degree.

The rest of the world will tell you that sluts make great wives (don’t you want a girl with experience?), false rape is an imaginary bogeyman, and you should follow your heart and get that masters in cheese appreciation with a minor in gender studies.

5. You won’t feel guilty about being who you are

The world outside of the Red Pill community wants you to hate yourself for being a man. Consider that Return of Kings, the most diverse and prolific collection of Red Pill articles on the internet, uses the tagline: “Return of Masculinity”. Sounds reasonable, right?

But in reaction to the (hilarious) Return of Kings article on 5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder, some cog in the Yahoo! content-vomit machine wrote:

“The site uses the tagline “Return of masculinity,” which looks curiously like misogyny”

In the eyes of these people, masculinity is misogyny and misogyny is a hate crime of the highest order. There is no room for cooperation between masculine men, and the sort of woman who interprets the mere expression of masculinity as offensive. If you’ve had the misfortune of a liberal arts education, you’ve probably been well-indoctrinated in the anti-male, anti-masculinist ideology of post-modern feminism. The Red Pill will cleanse you of whatever negativity in your self-image remains.

In a similar vein: If you’re white, you have spent your life listening to the exact same guilt trip about your race. But at some point, we in the Red Pill community got tired of the idea that the ‘legacy of slavery’ and the ‘invisible backpack of white privilege’ is responsible for every evil in the world. We started reading eye-opening blog posts by men like Steve Sailer and Chuck Ross, who showed us the hypocritical reality behind modern racial politics. As Bill Burr says, we’re all out of white guilt:

(Incidentally, I believe that modern progressive racial ideology is at least as harmful to American black men. But that’s a topic for another post.)

It’s interesting to note that despite our rejection of race politics and the victim-mongering industry, the Red Pill blogosphere would do just fine in an EEOC Diversity audit. Some of our best and most popular writers are Black, Latino, Asian, and Middle Eastern, and for the most part no one gives a shit and gets along great. There are a lot of heated conversations about racial issues on the Roosh V Forum, but at the end of the day we’re all big boys and aren’t afraid of offending each other.

Contrast this with a typical liberal – equally terrified of other races as he is of accusations of racism – who makes nice noises about multiculturalism and then spends $30,000/year to send his kid to an all-white school.

6. You Will Build A Network of High-Quality People

The next step in the Red Pill community, and I suspect it is coming soon, will be an explosion of Red Pill men coming together in real life.

Does meeting people off the internet sound weird to you? Here’s something that’s a lot weirder: Spending your entire life with a weak crew, when you could be strategizing, sharing ideas, and chasing girls with like-minded men. Have you moved recently? Are you stuck in a rut with friends who don’t share your desire and determination to improve your life? If so, throw up a message on the Roosh V Forum or r/TheRedPill and see if you can find some new crew members in your area.

7. You Will Expand Your Mind

As much as our opponents would like to believe otherwise, this community is one of the most literate on the web. Yes, there is plenty of crude humour and practical advice. But a man cannot understand the essence of the Red Pill community unless he spends many hours boning up on the scientific and historical foundations of our ideas. One of my main objectives in writing Thumotic is to encourage young men to read every title on my Great Books For Men page.

At the end of the day, The Red Pill is nothing new. The truths we teach would be old news to Plato, Seneca, Shakespeare, Defoe, Carlyle, Nietzsche, and basically any respectable pre-1960s thinker. The great men who built our civilization would be inclined to view our community as an outpost of sanity in an otherwise insane world. Here at Thumotic, we have to read the great books of the past, because everyone in the fallen 21st-century western world thinks we’re insane.


The Red Pill community gets a lot of bad press, and we’re going to start getting a whole lot worse as we continue to grow in size and influence. But none of it will change who we are – Men – unashamed of our identity; unafraid of offending fragile minds; looking to the wisdom of our ancestors; and above all, dedicated to improving ourselves in every aspect of our lives.

Unconventional Cures For Depression And Anxiety

Today’s post will discuss some unconventional solutions to mental health problems.

My standard disclaimer applies: I am not a doctor, this blog is for entertainment purposes only, and you should consult a grown-up before making any changes to your lifestyle. Also, some of the drugs listed below may be illegal in your country. I do not condone their use, except for my readers living in libertarian paradises such as Somalia, South Sudan, or Kandahar. Friends, it is always up to you to do your own research and take care of yourself. This post is not an alternative to speaking with a doctor.

Tongue in cheek disclaimers aside, we’re going to be talking about some fairly dangerous stuff. Do your homework, tread lightly, and be smart. Now without further ado, here are five unconventional cures for depression and anxiety:


MDMA (Ecstasy)  was first synthesized by German chemists in the early 20th century. It didn’t catch on until the 1970s, when an underground community of therapists discovered its unique ability to reduce anxiety and facilitate openness, and they started exploring its benefits in treatment. By the 1980s, it had seeped from therapeutic to recreational settings, where it was renowned for melting inhibitions, creating feelings of empathy, enhancing music, and generally being a rocking fun time. MDMA is basically alone in its class as an empathogenic drug.

In 1985, MDMA was outlawed. It’s still popular in the recreational scene, but there is currently a resurgence of interest in its therapeutic properties:

“As a patient in the trial, Josef participated in a series of psychotherapy sessions, followed by two days of taking a dose of MDMA with a pair of therapists sitting quietly nearby and monitoring his vital signs. From the outside, it didn’t seem like much. Internally, however, what happened to him was unspeakably complex and cathartic. “I didn’t become what I’m not, but I had a big release,” he said. “I released my guilt: ‘Why him and not me? How come I’m alive at all?’ Whatever happened, happened, and I can’t do anything about it. On the basic level, I got rid of these heavy feelings that I was carrying.”

Josef is 70 now and lives in a village in the Galilee overlooking the sea. He speaks about his MDMA experience with a tinge of amusement, aware of how incongruous it must seem that an aging former soldier with 10 grandchildren took a drug best known for fueling all-night dance parties and youthful bacchanalia. For him, of course, it was something entirely different. “It was a kind of salvation,” he said. “Those two pills really did it.”

Researchers in Israel believe that Josef’s experience can be replicated, and that MDMA could become a significant tool in helping those with chronic, intractable PTSD. An official clinical trial that began at Beer Yaakov in February is on track to test the drug’s effects on 10 patients within the next two years, one of a number of related studies happening around the world. If the results are positive, MDMA may become known as something far more profound than the impetus for a gazillion teenagers to don neon, wave glow sticks, and grind their teeth all night to ear-splitting bass lines. It could become a vital element of psychiatric care.”

MDMA is popular enough that you should have no trouble procuring it from any of your even remotely sketchy friends. If you have no sketchy friends, go to a club that plays a lot of house music and make some.

Back to MDMA: If you’re not a ready-fire-aim kind of fella, and would like read a complete breakdown of the history, effects, and risks of light MDMA use check out this book: Ecstasy: The Complete Guide: A Comprehensive Look at the Risks and Benefits of MDMA. From the book:

“Optimally, a session with MDMA should include experiencing courage and hope, seeing your goals, and sensing your purpose. Your life makes sense; you, as a person, make sense—these are the components of the ecstatic experience.

It is an insight drug. That’s its main use. The effect of MDMA, for most people, is that it allows insight without fear. There isn’t the usual defense against feelings of self-rejection and guilt. You can explore your shadow self, your dark side. It takes away the feelings of self-hatred and condemnation, which are the biggest obstacles to insight. That’s what makes ordinary psychotherapy take so very long.”

On the subject of risks: Anecdotally, the phenomenon of former ‘high-rollers’ experiencing a permanently dimmed ability to feel pleasure appears real enough to a few people I’ve met. Then again, maybe it’s just that the old county fair never seems as great after you’ve been to Disneyland. In any case you can probably get 90% of the benefits with 1% of the risk by sticking to moderate doses and infrequent use. The author of Ecstasy: The Complete Guide recommends no more than a few doses a year.

2. LSD and Psilocybin

LSD (Acid) and Psilocybin (Mushrooms) create similar experiences, of which visual hallucinations (melting walls and all that) are the least impressive.

A proper psychedelic trip has the potential to (hippie-babble alert) create new ways of thinking, perspectives, and creative ideas. Sounds odd? It is. But here’s a list of accomplished people who credit LSD as a major source of inspiration in their lives:

Ray Charles
Eric Clapton
Chris Farley
Fat Boy Slim
Doc Ellis
Jerry Garcia
Bill Hicks
Steve Jobs
John Belushi
Kevin Smith
Jack Nicholson
Cary Grant
Matt Groening
Angelina Jolie
Jim Morrison
Francis Crick
Aldous Huxley
Trey Parker & Matt Stone

(List is from here)

Is creative inspiration the same as a cure for depression? We’re mincing words. If you’re depressed, take whatever life-changing moments of clarity are on offer. In any event, Psilocybin has been shown to decrease blood flow to parts of the brain which are overactive in depressed people:

“Research by Nutt has found that psilocybin switches off part of the brain called the anterior cingulate cortex. It was known that this area is overactive in individuals suffering from depression. In his tests on healthy individuals, it was found that psilocybin had a profound effect on making these volunteers feel happier weeks after they had taken the drug, said Nutt – who was sacked as the chairman of the Advisory Council on the Misuse of Drugs in 2009 after repeatedly clashing with government ministers about the dangers and classification of illicit drugs.

Nutt’s team also discovered that another section of the brain known as the default mode network was also influenced by psilocybin. “People with depression have overactive default mode networks and so ruminate on themselves, on their inadequacies, on their badness, that they are worthless, that they have failed – to an extent that is sometimes delusional. Again psilocybin appears to block that activity and stops this obsessive rumination.”

A study published last year found that for the drug’s users, blood flow dropped by 20 per cent in the brain’s communications centres. “These are the places where all the information from our senses is combined with our memories and expectations about the world,” says Feilding. “The result is the familiar consistent and coherent view of the world that we think of as normal. So it looks as though what the hallucinogens are doing is weakening that top-down control of our experience and allowing a freer, less constrained but also more chaotic state of awareness to emerge. It may also be significant that the volunteers who reported the most vivid and powerful experiences were also those who had the greatest reduction in blood flow.”

The discovery that our normal world view is maintained by throttling back the amount of information getting through to our consciousness would be a vindication of the theory put forward 58 years ago by Aldous Huxley in The Doors of Perception, an account of his personal experience of taking mescaline, a similar drug that comes from the peyote cactus. Of more immediate practical use, however, was the finding that one of the “hubs” identified as being damped down by psilocybin – known as the “medial prefrontal cortex” – is already known to be overactive in people with depression. Now a clinical trial funded by the Medical Research Council will see whether psilocybin can help severely depressed people.”

And LSD is an effective treatment for alcoholism:

“For the group of patients taking LSD, 59% showed reduced levels of alcohol misuse compared with 38% in the other group.

This effect was maintained six months after taking the hallucinogen, but it disappeared after a year. Those taking LSD also reported higher levels of abstinence.

The report’s authors, Teri Krebs and Pal-Orjan Johansen, said: “A single dose of LSD has a significant beneficial effect on alcohol misuse.”

They suggested that more regular doses might lead to a sustained benefit.

“Given the evidence for a beneficial effect of LSD on alcoholism, it is puzzling why this treatment approach has been largely overlooked,” they added.”

The risk-reward profile of mushrooms and LSD are absurdly biased in favour of the latter. As with MDMA, you’re taking a lot of unnecessary long-term risk (and kind of missing the point) if you get fucked up every single weekend. But, everyone should have a few good trips in their life.

3. Testosterone

It’s pretty hard to be depressed with high testosterone levels. There’s very little I can say about testosterone replacement therapy for young men that I haven’t already said. If you’re feeling slow, negative, fearful, lethargic (i.e depressed) talk to your doctor and get a blood test done.  There are also natural ways to boost your testosterone, which will be the subject of a future post, but if your levels are low – and especially if your low T is leading you towards unhealthy thoughts – put a brick on the gas and get a prescription for TRT. Imagine waking up and feeling this:

“Within hours, and at most a day, I feel a deep surge of energy. It is less edgy than a double espresso, but just as powerful. My attention span shortens. In the two or three days after my [testosterone] shot, I find it harder to concentrate on writing and feel the need to exercise more. My wit is quicker, my mind faster, but my judgment is more impulsive. It is not unlike the kind of rush I get before talking in front of a large audience, or going on a first date, or getting on an airplane, but it suffuses me in a less abrupt and more consistent way. In a word, I feel braced. For what? It scarcely seems to matter.”

This is what it feels like to have a ‘normal’ testosterone level. What’s normal? Don’t rely on your doctor to know. Get the blood work results yourself. Your doctor, if he is an idiot, may tell that your level of 200 ng/dL is ‘normal’. Don’t listen to him. Shoot for, at a minimum, normal for your age range.

4. Theanine

I’ve previously called Theanine the pill that cures approach anxiety, but it’s actually the pill that cures any sort of anxiety. It is essentially a cup of green tea in a pill without the caffeine, and regular tea drinkers will recognize the calm buzz that Theanine brings on. Unlike many of the other drugs on this list, Theanine is safe, legal, and cheap. If you suffer from generalized anxiety, buy a bottle and give it a try.

5. Ketamine

I have zero experience with Ketamine so I’m not going to recommend it to you. But I did come across a few mentions of Ketamine while researching this post. Apparently one small study was done and it was very promising:

“A small study of 18 patients with bipolar disorder resistant to treatment published this week in the Archives of General Psychiatry found depressive symptoms improved significantly in 71 per cent of those treated with ketamine, compared with a six-per-cent improvement in the group that was given a placebo. Among those given ketamine, depressive symptoms began to improve in as little as 40 minutes.”

And of course no one ever spoke of it again. Presumably because Ketamine is one of the ‘bad’ drugs, like MDMA, LSD, etc.

I wonder: How many suicides could have been prevented if we did not have an irrational hysteria about this arbitrary drug? How many people could have lived mentally healthy lives, if only MDMA talk therapy had remained legal? This is just one of the many ways in which our medical and wellness culture is completely messed up.

Modern medicine is not without value. Break your leg and a doctor will patch you right up. But if you want to optimize your health and performance, and take advantage of every opportunity available for serving that end, you have to take control of your life and recognize that doctors are not gods. They are smart people with a lot of training, but they have their blind spots, and they will never care about your health as much as you do. If you are suffering, I wish you luck in doing what needs to be done to fix yourself.

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If you know someone who seems depressed, here’s what you should say to them. Here are a few dozen stories from people who have overcome depression.

Now, intrepid reader – depressed or not – start educating yourself on the risks and rewards of unconventional self-medication:

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Learn more about MDMA: Ecstasy: The Complete Guide: A Comprehensive Look at the Risks and Benefits of MDMA

Learn more about LSD: Take a break from the science-y stuff. Read The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test, and Fear and Loathing In Las Vegas

Learn about DMT: I didn’t write about DMT today, but I will. In the meantime I’m reading DMT: The Spirit Molecule

Learn more about Testosterone: Testosterone Replacement Therapy For Young Men

If you want to really dive into the latest research and advocacy, check out the Multidisciplinary Association For Psychedelic Studies. Erowid is a good source for all of the above as well.

Testosterone Replacement Therapy For Young Men

If you haven’t yet started thinking about Testosterone Replacement Therapy, you will soon. In the near future, I predict an explosion of young North American men developing an interest in the use of anabolic steroids, and I plan to be among them.


But wait: Won’t steroids kill you / turn you into an angry rape machine / shave years off your life / make your balls shrink / [insert whatever other horror stories you’ve heard] ?

To these questions, the answers range from “No” to “Only if you use them like an idiot.” The truth is that testosterone supplementation will have nothing but positive effects on a large number of men. For most others, artificial testosterone offers massive benefits with only minor risks. Even heavy and irresponsible use of anabolic steroids is probably safer than you think.

What are the benefits of higher testosterone levels? The list reads like a letter to Santa from every man, everywhere: More energy, more focus, more strength, more power, more dominance, better sex, more drive, less anxiety, better mood, more muscle, less fat. In short, you will shit diamonds and carve your name into them with the tip of your dick. Via Danger and Play, here’s Andrew Sullivan talking about his experience with testosterone injections:

“Within hours, and at most a day, I feel a deep surge of energy. It is less edgy than a double espresso, but just as powerful. My attention span shortens. In the two or three days after my shot, I find it harder to concentrate on writing and feel the need to exercise more. My wit is quicker, my mind faster, but my judgment is more impulsive. It is not unlike the kind of rush I get before talking in front of a large audience, or going on a first date, or getting on an airplane, but it suffuses me in a less abrupt and more consistent way. In a word, I feel braced. For what? It scarcely seems to matter.”

And here’s Victor Pride’s response to the question: How will you feel if you supplement with testosterone?

“In a word: great. In two words: fucking great.

You can expect better recovery from intense exercise and less soreness. You can expect enhanced muscle growth. You can expect erections like when you were a teenager. You can expect to feel like a fucking man. As simple as that.”

So that’s what you have to gain from TRT: Basically everything you could ever conceivably want. The entire self-improvement blogosphere – fitness, seduction, ‘getting motivated’ –  could very easily be junked and replaced with a static page that reads: “Get on TRT, bitch!”

But what about the side effects!?!!?


Falling down and cracking your head is a potential side effect of showering. Nothing is perfectly safe. TRT is certainly not 100% safe – always, everywhere, for every man, at every dose. I am not a doctor, I am not a licensed professional anything, and I don’t even have any clean socks right now, so do not make any decisions purely on the basis of anything you read here. But in my amateur and anonymous opinion, TRT should be on the radar of every man with the means to procure it.

The rest of this post will break down the risk-reward profile of artificial testosterone supplementation for three separate classes of user: The Fixers, The Hackers, and The Abusers.

The Fixers

If you have low testosterone levels, you should book an appointment with your doctor to discuss Testosterone Replacement Therapy immediately. How do you know if you’re deficient? From Victor Pride:

How do you know if you might have low testosterone?

  • If you are alive today you almost certainly have low levels.

  • If you experience muscle loss or inability to gain muscle.

  • If you experience fat gain.

  • If you are fatigued or have sleep problems.

  • If you have gynecomastia (aka bitch tits).

  • If you experience hot flashes.

  • If you have night sweats.

  • If you have low sex drive and weak erections.

  • If you are irritable.

  • If you are depressed.

  • If you experience hair loss.

  • If you have memory problems.

If you have low testosterone, it’s not because you’re some freak or oddity. Something is causing testosterone levels in western men to plummet:

“The average levels of the male hormone dropped by 1 percent a year, Dr. Thomas Travison and colleagues from the New England Research Institutes in Watertown, Massachusetts, found. This means that, for example, a 65-year-old man in 2002 would have testosterone levels 15 percent lower than those of a 65-year-old in 1987. This also means that a greater proportion of men in 2002 would have had below-normal testosterone levels than in 1987.

“The entire population is shifting somewhat downward we think,” Travison told Reuters Health. “We’re counting on other studies to confirm this.”

What’s causing this? Obesity is a big culprit. Environmental factors like women’s birth control and plastics also share some blame. Crappy diets, pesticides, less time outside, less saturated fats. The list goes on. And there’s also my own pet theory: A subconscious, spiritual loss of life force among beaten down western men, resulting from the constant barrage of anti-male, anti-white, anti-strength sentiment that we’re all surrounded by on a daily basis. Whatever the cause, the result and the solution are the same. If you have low testosterone, you have a medical problem. Forget about ‘safety.’ Low testosterone will kill you:

“Studies published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology, the journal Diabetes Care, the journal Heart and other major medical journals show that low testosterone levels not only lead to obesity, loss of muscle, weak bones and depression, but also increase the odds of heart disease, diabetes, Alzheimers and other major health problems.

In addition, low testosterone levels are correlated with decreased confidence, drive, ability to concentrate, and cognitive abilities.”

If you are deficient, do what needs to be done to get yourself back up to normal, immediately. TRT for you is all benefit, no cost.

What constitutes a ‘deficiency’? Technically, anything above 348 ng/dl is in the normal range. But as The Art Of Manliness puts it:

“Here’s the problem.

That reference range consists of a wide variety of men who tested with LabCorp: 80-year-old men and 20-year-old men; obese men and super fit men; men with pituitary gland problems and men with glands that work like champs.

Sure, my 383 ng/dl was considered normal, but normal compared to whom? An 80-year-old man with Type 2 diabetes?

The fact that reference ranges don’t break patients down by age or health status explains why a 30-year-old man can go to his doctor with the symptoms of low T, only to be told that his T levels are fine because they’re within the “normal” range. If you’re 30 (or even 50), but have the same testosterone level as an 8o-year-old, diabetic man, your doc may say you’re okay, but you’re still not going to feel good. Plain and simple.”

The average man between the age of 25-34 has 617 ng/dl. The average man under 25 has 697 ng/dl. So if you happen to have some silly cunt of a doctor who tells you that 340 is a perfectly fine level for a twenty-three year old man, do yourself a favour and find a new doctor.


“I’m going to try to raise my testosterone levels naturally first.”

Here’s a better idea. Cycle on TRT for a while, and get a taste of what a properly functioning young male body feels like. Then start chasing that feeling with weights, Vitamin D, fish oil, Brazil nuts and whatever else you’ve got in your arsenal.

I repeat, if your testosterone levels are below the high end of the normal range, there is basically no downside to responsible and medically supervised experimentation with testosterone replacement therapy. Follow the of advice of Victor Pride:

“Go to the Doctor. Go to 5 Doctors if you have to. Fix the problem. You do not have to rot with age. You do not have to grow fatter by the year. You do not have to grow weaker by the year. You do not have to be shackled by the testosterone reducing environment. That is a choice you make. You can take your destiny into your very own hands.

Growing old naturally is the worst choice you could make. At 25 years old, or 27 years old, or 30 years old, or 35 years old it is time to get tested, checked and fixed. 35+ years old gentlemen should not walk to the Doctor, they should run. If you have low hormone levels, and most readers certainly do, the only side effects of TRT are positive.

The Doctor will check your levels and prescribe what is needed to you. The testosterone given to TRT patients is either a gel that you rub into your skin or an intramuscular injection. And if you are going without it, friend, you are suffering. Get to the Doctor and at the very least get checked. You will probably be surprised at how low your levels are.”

Steroid Abuse

Irresponsible use of anabolic steroids is dangerous. Steroid abuse can cause high cholesterol, hypertension, liver damage, baldness, testicular atrophy, and lots of other fun stuff. Most distressing of all, steroids can result in an enlarged clitoris, which the medical community refers to as Scalzi‘s Disease.

And yet, how many deaths have you heard attributed to steroid abuse? Given the media’s general distaste for the biochemical origins of all that is male and masculine, you would expect any such case to be page one. Consider also how many men in their early twenties are complete fucking idiots, who will do literally anything to be the best in their chosen vocation of bodybuilding, athletics, or just being the biggest dude in the club.

But…  if jacked guys are not dropping like tachychardic flies in the parking lots of bodybuilding gyms and locker rooms on a daily basis, it must be because legitimate steroid abuse is not the most dangerous thing in the world. Yes, it’s terrible for your body. Maybe even as bad as eating a grain-filled USDA-approved diet, or getting blackout drunk three nights a week throughout college. But it’s not an instant death sentence.

The standard advice from the testosterone-tolerant community regarding mega doses of steroids is: Don’t be an idiot. Use steroids responsibly. It’s not worth risking your life to get that much bigger and stronger.

Personally, I’m not interested in taking the amounts of steroids that carry real and severe health risks. That path is not for me.

But fuck it man. It’s your body. Yes, huge doses might kill you. Lots of things might kill you. Many of them are worth it. Wingsuits, for example. If dying is the scariest thing in the world to you, curl up in bed and drink green tea all day. Do you want to risk your health for a shot at having the most impressive physique, the heaviest lifts, a chance at the show? I won’t stand in your way.

But I will say this to the kids: Do your best to stay as safe as you can, at the level of intensity you choose to compete. I’m not the guy to help you figure out how to do that, but I’ll pass you some links at the end of this post that will give you a good starting point for your research.

The Hackers

Now we reach the really interesting case: A man, let’s say he’s twenty-eight. He looks and feels great, and his testosterone levels are very near the top of the ‘normal’ range without any sort of artificial supplementation. He lifts heavy, eats clean, and his body is performing as well as it did when he was twenty-one. He supplements with Vitamin D, Zinc, Magnesium, fish oil, and ACV. His mind is clear. His body is strong.

And yet he wonders… what else might be available, in this mortal coil?

I think I have a pretty good idea of what the benefits to TRT would be. As happy as I am with my present condition, I would look and feel much better.

And the negative side effects? Of a very limited and mild TRT regimen? They would be virtually non-existent. I would be on an aggressive cycle right now, if it wasn’t for one concern: I’m a firm believer in the idea that there is no such thing as a biological free lunch. Your body is a finely-tuned machine, optimized over millions of years of evolution. If additional testosterone is an unmitigated ‘good’, your body would just produce it. There must be some biological cost to high testosterone, if our bodies limit production despite the obvious survival and reproductive benefits.

And in fact, it does appear that high testosterone levels reduce total life expectancy, slightly.

“… a group of scientists and historians from South Korea delved into historical and demographic records concerning a unique group of eunuchs from Korea’s Chosun Dynasty (1392-1910)

Thus, it appears that castration and removal of the male hormones helped these eunuchs live longer lives than their intact brethren, even though both groups had similar social and political power, as well as similar home lives…

This is a compelling line of evidence linking to testosterone and other male hormones a lower life expectancy among men.  Scientists do not completely understand why testosterone could have such an effect.  There is evidence that testosterone interferes with the immune response, and it most certainly affects behavior.” 

But: Would you rather live until 75 with the mind and body of Arnold Schwarzenegger and Sylvester Stallone? Or make it to 80 as an androgynous tube of cookie dough from your mid-thirties onward?

There’s no right answer. I think it’s entirely reasonable for a man to visit a retirement home and conclude, ‘fuck everything after sixty.’ Such a man could feel free to cruise and blast his way through middle age and beyond.

In my case though, I’m a man who want to have a late family, and I’m interested in seeing where this whole transhumanism thing goes. I would love to stand a good chance of seeing 80, 85, 90, and 100. Thus, my current plan is to tread lightly, and wait until my natural levels start to dip, before I start tinkering with my body’s sex hormones.

However, I’m an open-minded fella. I invite you to move me from my position. Comments are open, and I’ll be keeping an eye on this thread over at the Roosh V Forum. And to any readers still not convinced that hormone therapy is worth a look, I’ll leave you with this photo of the 67-year old Sylvester Stallone.

Whatever he, Mark Sisson, Mel Gibson, and Arnold Schwarzenegger  are doing – I want to be doing. Fuck growing old gracefully. I am going to do whatever it takes to strike an optimal balance between prolonging my life and enhancing the quality thereof.

Links and Resources

As I said, I have never tried any hormone therapy. However, if you’re feeling geared up, ready to jump headfirst into the deep end, and just want to click on something RIGHT NOW, I trust Victor Pride’s recommendation that the 100% legal Superdrol derivative, Super-DMZ is the real deal. [Update: Sadly it’s been pulled from Amazon. I refuse to replace that link with some random bullshit, so if you want to put some hair on your chest, read Fight Club and pop some Vitamin D.]

If you would prefer to do some research first (a character flaw, this womanly cowardice, from which your first dose of the good stuff will assuredly free you) I’ve compiled a few resources below:

William Lewellyn’s Anabolics

Danger and Play, The He Hormone

Washington Blog, Boost Your Testosterone

Victor Pride, Why Your Testosterone Levels Are Lower Than You Think

You So Would, The Testosterone Saga

Good-Looking Loser, Get Juiced category

Art Of Manliness, Normal Testosterone Levels (part of a great series)

An interview of sorts with an IFBB pro on the real deal behind the scenes

A thread at the Roosh V Forum in which knowledge is dropped, fearful crossfit weenies are excoriated, and curious rookies such as myself are suffered their ignorance.

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