I mentioned one of my favourite smooth moves in this post: I call it The Contrived Hook Point.
What is a hook point? Basically it’s the moment when a girl goes from lukewarm to definitely wanting your dick and starts radiating IOIs like she just went supernova. Recognizing when a girl hits her hook point is important, because once a girl is there, the game is yours to lose. You can chill out, relax, and focus on sealing up your logistics.
But this post isn’t about her hook point. It’s about yours. It’s about the moment you realize that wow, you’re really into this girl.
Male hook points come at a different time than female hook points though. If a girl is hot, you’ll experience your first hook point within moments of meeting her. A few minutes after that, you might decide that she’s at least reasonably cool. Personally though, I will rarely decide that I am legitimately really into a girl until after we’ve banged a few times. At least, this is the natural progression of hook points that I experience in the course of getting to know a girl.
Unfortunately, none of these timings are strategically useful for my game plan, which is to play a bit aloof until I have her in my apartment with some candles lit, wine poured and jazz flowing. Fortunately though I am a shady and dishonest human being, so I have no qualms with faking a hook point at the most convenient moment possible. Usually this is within the first hour of the 100% guaranteed second date. My mindset at the time of the contrived hook point is:
Up until now I’ve been on the fence, but because of what you just said/did, I am suddenly very into you.
From the moment of the contrived hook point onward, I have shifted gears. I have gone from friendly/evaluating/judging/having a good time, to hungry/intrigued/chasing. Ideally the hook point is as sincere and uncontrived as possible. I will genuinely look for her to do something cute and endearing, and I will focus on it. But in case you’ve either a) already sort-of fallen for her, or b) haven’t but still want the bang, making one up is the way to go.
Immediately after the shift, the change is subtle. It is more eye contact, less talking. Getting a bit physical, although not in a directly sexual manner.
Go for the kiss within a few minutes of entering this new, sexual state. Pull back like you can’t believe how good it felt to kiss her, and it made you want her so bad you’re about to lose control.
Then, dive back in and keep moving the ball upfield. She will most likely give you some push back, since you’re using the 100% guaranteed second date, but that’s OK. Be cool, be relaxed, let her define her limits, and keep making out with her until those limits disintegrate in a blur of arousal.