I read this post on NexxtLevelUp and came across this comment:
“Always hilarious when a really good-looking and muscular guy tries to teach game to nerds.
You don’t even understand the advantages you have.”
But, speaking as a (reasonably) good-looking and muscular guy, I will say this: I absolutely understand the advantages. Why the hell else would I put effort into being good-looking and muscular?
The commenter above says its hilarious when we try to teach game to nerds. But here’s the thing: I’m not interested in teaching game to nerds, if by ‘nerds’ you mean men who are not interested in equipping themselves with the advantages of fitness, style, money, and an attractive lifestyle.
We’re all familiar with the sort of woman who weighs 300lbs, has three babies by three daddies, and still thinks she’s entitled to a top-tier guy because she claims to have a nice personality. But while the red-pill seduction community is quick to mock such a woman as delusional, many within it will mollycoddle the milquetoasts who refuse to accept that women will judge them on superficial, materialistic and aesthetic factors, rather than purely on the quality of their game. We rightly mock women who refuse to adhere to the standards men and nature hold them to. Well, the men who refuse to make the basic changes to their lives that will make them 10x more attractive, and instead choose to doggedly pursue the perfect openers and attraction-building stacks that will allow them to talk away their ugly faces, are adopting the same entitled mentality.
The analogy is not a perfect one, because an ugly man with some combination of power, fame and good social skills truly can enter the top tier of attractiveness, while a genetically unfortunate woman cannot. But the bottom line remains: Muscles, athleticism, good style, and good grooming – all of which are well within reach of any man with a bit of dedication – will put the vast majority of men in the “really good-looking” category. If you are too lazy to capitalize on these shortcuts to sexual satiation, I can only conclude that you don’t truly desire success with women, nor do you deserve it.
Life is hard. To the victor go the spoils. The seduction industry earns most of its cash selling solutions that purportedly empower ordinary men with the ability to get extraordinary results. Here at Thumotic, I’m certainly not averse to a smooth move or two that will grease the wheels of love and make the seduction process a bit more elegant. But the core value of this blog is that the most certain way of earning greatness is by deserving it.
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What are your top grooming tips (not counting things like, “showering” or “cut your nails”)?
This is true.
I’m tall, skinny, with good hair, piercing blue eyes and a nice enough face. I dress well, and have a cropped beard that neutralizes my jawline (which is somewhat weaker then optimally).
Before I learned game, a night out would look somewhat like this: I’d get drunk, hang-out with my boys on the dance-floor, wait until I accidentally bumped into some girl, slowly start with dancing with her, kiss her, kiss her more, and see her leave.
Now, after learning game, which main component in my mind is not attraction creating material (there’s only so much you can verbally increase your hotness if you don’t have money, power or fame to back up your words), but rather good logistics and routine, things have much improved.
These days, a night out might look something like this: I’ll still be wasted, but instead of hanging out on the dance-floor I’ll approach a girl out smoking, ask her for a cigarette and chat her up. I’ll tease her, tell her stories that allow me to brag/intrigue her with plausible deniability, playfully refuse to answer questions and just generally try to seem confident, cool and funny. I’ll isolate her by asking if she wants to come get a drink, but only after I know she digs me. Then, I’ll take her to the Kino Escalation Floor for some hot-cold dancing. I’ll pretend to go in for the kiss, only to withdraw. After a while of doing this I’ll push her to the corner, go for the kiss, but break it off after a few more seconds. When she tries to kiss me again I’ll accuse her of being tacky, playfully pretend I’m afraid my friends will think I’m a slut, and then suggest we go somewhere more quiet where we can talk. Like the bar down the street.
After an hour at the bar we’ll be on our way to my place, to try the cool shisha (hookah for you anglos) I bought on a backstreet in Cairo. Deal sealed.
HOWEVER. There is a limit to game, and that limit is your natural attractiveness. With game you can bump it up a point or two. For me (a 6) that means I can get 7s and very occasionally 8s (happened a few times), though I’ll gladly slum it out with 6s and even 5s (of course that is always followed by regret), if I have to.
But if I put on some muscle on my skinny body I’m sure I would kill it with the 8s. Sadly, I’m horrible apathetic. I would never have learned game if I didn’t really enjoy partying, and if I didn’t have a solid, cool crew. Anything that takes actual work though usually ends with me hungover, reading a Great Book For Men (right now Foucault’s Pendulum), rather then getting a better job, better grades, better body.
With that said, I still enjoy reading self-help blogs like this one.
I’ve met a lot of guys who found the seduction community, and 6 months in were just as visually unattractive as when they started.
But it’s alright, because they’d “annihilated their approach anxiety”.
If every guy who wants more or hotter women did the following:
1. Gym. 6 months. No exceptions.
2. Whiten teeth
3. Put time, effort and money into learning and developing some damn style
4. Get a decent haircut
Then 98% of those men wouldn’t even need to go further than that. They’d have hit or exceeded their desired success with women. Guaranteed.
I remember talking to a Captain in the army when I was younger , and he said something that really stuck with me; “you know what this generation don’t care about? Personal Admin. Having your clothes washed, your face shaved, your nails clipped. People used to care about their presentation and their personal affairs. Not anymore”
I can tell you from personal experience, male pensioners as a group care more about their early morning shave than just about any other part of their day.
A bit off tangent, but I honestly think these things come under the remit of a mans masculinity. The best definition of ‘being a man’ I heard basically linked it to responsibility. As you become a man, you slowly accumulate more and more responibility – at work, at home, in the community, over yourself, etc.
If you can’t properly groom yourself, or keep yourself in shape, it hints at a man off-kilter. And if you are trying to improve your success with women and can’t be bothered to improve your visual aesthetic, you are wasting your time. Completely and utterly.
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